I have this female friend in college, she's very cool and easy to talk to, we have some things in common. Anyway...She's been very distant lately, I've known her since May. When I'm with her in college she's very social and we talk about books, music, weekends, life, etc etc. She told me long ago she had a boyfriend, and I know that she loves him very much, so the whole thing of misinterpreting signals or "wishfull thinking" issues is completely over. I just want to be her friend...really. The thing is she never answers my e-mails, neither my text messages. Now, I just want to know how is she doing in our midterms, that's all, and nothing, not even a "hi, i'm doing fine, bye", nothing. Do I have to continue "chasing her"? The distant attitude has been going for a while now, maybe she's not interested in my friendship. Any advice? PS: She used to answer my e-mails, text messages, anything.
send her 1 singular email asking wahts up, wahts changed, if youve done something wrong or if life is just too busy for friends right now. let her know youre gonna lay off the contact stuff til shes comfortable/has time again for ya
Could be because it's midterms. I know when I am studying for them I become a hermit and am lucky to see my husband and kids, and emails often get ignored. It sucks, but you should know how stressful midterms can be. Just wait a few days, and then send her an email. If she doesn't answer then maybe she has moved on. Sorry.
I am just guessing here but maybe she thinks you are trying to be more then friends, show her you can handle some space.
She knows that I got the whole idea of "I'm taken, and I'm in love with my boyfriend". That has been made very clear to me. I want to be her friend only, I have no hidden agenda of any kind. Maybe she's just not interested anymore, I'll wait like "His Eden" said.
