my love holding me back? or the voice of reason

I've been crazy about this guy since i was 15 (that's 9 years), we're really in love i've neverwanted to not be with him or to be with someone else, but he doesnt want all the things i want. i want to be a hippie, back to nature bare essentials hippie, i've always wanted that. but he likes things that come in packages and video games and hdtvs. i feel like he'll never be hippie with me, i'll never even be albe to be a hippie tourist and check out a gathering with him, I'd have to go it alone (which is kinda intimidating). i can barely get him to go camping with me, and when there's a band i like playing locally he almost never wants to come then i go alone and when he does he feels all awkward and sits at the table the whole time and i feel like i can't even dance cuz i'd be leaving him alone at the table feeling awkward so i just sit at the table feeling trapped and unfulfilled.

His love for me is a great overflowing gift and my love for him is undying, so what do I do?

 

you all need to talk tell him how you feel

 

Oh we've talked about it alright, that's where the "voice of reason" part comes in. I didn't want to get too wordy, but he thinks I'm a little crazy to not care about money and to want a simpler life with less material bondage. I mean he doesn't actually think I'm crazy he just doesnt think subsistance living is something he wants.

 

Maybe you guys are better off working on a type of relationship where you each have your own somewhat seperate social lives. It may be your differences that will make one another maintain interest throughout the years to come. But if you two turn out to be so different, it's hard to work with, maybe it's the beginning of growing out of eachother. Would his interest in materialism cause you to loose interest in him in the future, and seek someone more like you in that sense? Or is it something you'll be able to grow and learn from? Maybe he's just trying to keep you in track before you wander off? Just a few thoughts.
I dont know, I see a few ways of looking at it, but it's a little hard for me because I can't imagine being with someone for 9 years yet, and that probably changes how you look at everything.

 

kay physicalgraffiti thats wut im thinking about as a 6 year yuppie veteran i im pretty sure well end op compromising on moving to the country i shudnt worry about