Problem with future sister in law...

Which the problem is: she hates me. She has never given me a chance and she condemns me with no justification. How can I work with her to show her the ignorance of her ways?

Om mani padme hum!

Peace and love

 

And why do you want to show her her ignorance ? I think it´s her problem, her ,,error in the program". So stay in peace, it´s hard to change somebody, who is not worth about it.

 

I want to free her from her suffering. I know she must suffer greatly and I don't want to be part of her problems. She makes her own choices and must live with the consquences. Om mani padme hum!

Peace and love

 

You wrote, that you don´t want to be part of her problems....but how do you want to help her to be in peace, if she hate somebody without reason ? Or she has one ?

 

Her reason is that "I am not good for him." This is false because I am the only one who tries to understand him and he tries to understand me. We both have a form of bipolar disorder, so we have a special bond that no one really understands or even tries to understand. We love each other so much.

I believe her reasons revolve around herself, not me because she could never explain to Adam why I was not good for him.

How should I act around her? Should I avoid her? What should I do?

Peace and love

 

Maybe you can´t avoid her, ´cuz they´re family, but I mean, you can be normal in her presence. Like in the act with another persons in your boyfriends life. If she tried to be rummy, just ignore it. She is the person who has problem with somebody (something) for which she also haven´t got a good reason, but you´re equable and OK. So stay in well-being, for you and maybe also for his family or friends who needn´t to have a problem of loving you

 

Thank you for your kind advice!

Peace and love

 

You can't change the way someone is, just the way you respond to them. Just be kind and good. Be yourself. If she truly loves her brother and you are good for him she will eventually come around on her own. Try to remember when someone is least loveable is when they most need love.

 

Thank you!

Peace and love

 

I agree imilia.

You´re welcome hippie, so good luck !

 

Oh, she thinks her shit doesn't stink and everyone elses shit does, huh? Unless she is willing to change, there's nothing much you can do.

 

What I meant was that I wanted to show that I am not the bad person that she thinks I am (ignorance) and that I am a loving fiance and want only the best for Adam. I have been told that she is scared that I am going to take him away from her, which once again stems back to ignorance. I am not trying to break up his family, rather, I am joining it. I have been told that she will come around.

Peace and love

 

After you are married, and stay happy, she'll come around. She probably thinks you won't last...

 

I had the same problem with my MOTHER in law, if i do ever see her (live hundreds of miles apart now) we are just polite (sometimes) but apart from that, don't really bother with her.I think i got fed up with trying to prove myself to her, me and her son have been together 8 years now, married just over 5. If she doesnt lik me by now, then she never will.
Sorry, suppose i didn't really help
hope all works out for you

 

she doesn't have to like you. AS long as your husband likes you that's all that matters. Just keep being corgial, but not overly friendly. If you try too hard you are reinforcing her behavior.

 

Have sex with her - Than she'll change her mind

 

Who are you, the savior of the world? Second coming? Forget it.

 

i don't know, punch her in the face or something. trip her as she's coming down the stairs. you want to free her... yet you don't want to be a part of her problems? i'm sorry, that's one big contradiction. either crack her one or just ignore her. both ways she'll quit bothering you.

good luck

 

hippy chick- you can't do anything to change her be yourself- my step-mother-in-law is the biggest piece of (joy) (sarcasm) both her and her daughter make fun of me and make jokes and think they are better than others and you know botton line is who better than who No one!!


Just be yourself don't pretend you don't need to prove to anyone jack shit!