well my girlfriend broke up with me the day before my bday (september 28) saying she'd still want to see me though and be close to me... I was pretty sad cause I still loved her and told her I would need some time alone and I wouldn't want to see her on the day of my birthday and maybe for a little while. now i got a bit over it, and want to see her again, as friends or whatever, i just wanna see her cause we did share something nice during our relationship. But yesterday all hell broke loose... she tells me how fuckin confused she is, how she was a failure as a girlfriend, how she's a failure as a human being, how she's been taking drugs she wont wanna tell me which to escape and feel numb, how i didnt deserve her and bla bla bla... I was really fuckin scared and really thought she was going to do stupid like kill herself... Later I called her she sounded really out of it, troubled... Now I dont know wtf to do... if i see her will i just make it worse for her? I love her like fuckin mad but i dunno if im willing to go through some shit like that again, i really dont know wtf is gonna happen. im pretty scared
Well, I think you should see her, try to listen to her, ask her what's wrong. dont let her leave until she says everything. just dont let her go. I've beeng through this and I know. people like that should be treated gently, you have to be with her, on her side, you need to be there. you need to help her go through this, or she would probably kill herself. Dont say you are not ready to go through such a thing, coz you are. You love her right??? You have to do everything to make her feel better. just dont walk away, try to fix her, before you leave. take care, and good luck.
ok i called her this morning... she seems to feel better... but I still feel like there's a lot on her mind, and deep down I really wish we could be together again, but I'll just take it one step at a time for now
Well, that's your decision dude, and I think you'r right about this, but just remeber that she might be really needing you right now. good luck
Dude seriously. At your age, you come first, not some psychotic chick. Trust me on this: crazy chicks, depressed chicks, emo chicks, psycho chicks, "emotionally needy" chicks, high maintenence chicks... they all have one thing in common: they drag you down, sap your mental and emotional energy from you, and then toss you aside when you're all used up. They are psychic vampires. If you want to have a lasting, fulfilling relationship with a woman, you and your goals have to come first. Women wil see that, respect that, be turned on by that... and come to you. And then you can fuck'n'chuck any of them that you want, or, if you're looking to settle down, go on a few dates, weed out the unstable ones, pick a nice girl, and show her your compassionate, loving side. As for this chick: If she's doing drugs, discontinue all present (if any) and future sexual relations until she gets tested negative for drugs, and negative for disease. She sounds a bit BPD to me: Girl: "We need to break up." Guy: "Awww... well alright." Girl: "I need you back. Let's hang out." Guy: "I need some space." Girl: "YOU DON'T LOVE ME ANYMORE. HOW COULD YOU ABANDON ME LIKE THIS. I HAVE THIS CRISIS IN MY LIFE. I'M IN TROUBLE. I NEED HELP. ME. ME. ME." Personally I wouldn't play that game. She breaks up with you, and then when you tell her to leave you alone for a day, suddenly crisis and she needs you? She might be trying to see how much she can manipulate your behavior- in which case, she is not worth it. She might even be a Borderline Personality, in which case, TRUST ME ON THIS, she is not worth it. She sounds like a lost soul. Or just a manipulative, psychotic bitch. Same difference I guess. There's nothing you can do, except lend a compassionate helping hand. But if you offer to much, she will try to devour your soul. You cannot help her, ultimately, or save her. That's up to her. She broke up with him. Her needs are irrelevant now. He, or any other human being for that matter, is not a toy to be tossed about on a whim, nor a resource to be used.
Sounds like some attention whoring going on. The smartest thing would be to stay the fuck away but you probably won't.
im just wondering, if anyone has any experience with this kinda situation... will she ever heal? cause months ago she wasn't that troubled like she is today. and i know her well, well what she was, we were really similar people, very open minded and smart when it comes to understanding relationships, someone who seemed to have a good grip on reality... but its like if, something totally triggered in her mind and she cant seem to be the same person..... she seems afraid to say things and stuff. we used to talk to eachother the same way, but now im the only one talking and she doesnt seem to wanna talk alot
She has to want to heal. No matter how hard you try you cannot heal her. Generally speaking, yes she will heal. Most people over 15 have been "in love" and hurt, and they heal. We all do. You might want to take a break and not be so available to her. It will wear you out mentally if you keep being there for her. Just let her know you care, but really need some space so you can both heal.
