Ok so basically my boyfriends ex has convinced herself they are still dating when the rest of the world is fully aware of their breakup. She faked pregnancy to stay with him and does creepy stuff like show up at his house and call excessively even when shes told he isnt home she still calls. Well anyway hers a convo I had with her. Basically I saw her at the beach the other night and she calls my boyfriend over and starts yelling at him and someone within her group of friends called me a slut. My question is do I sound like a complete bitch or is it just bitchy enough to get the point across? Her: he told me you guys work shit out im happy for you sorry bout last night Me: Um yeah last night wasnt too cool. You or one of your friends or whoever called me a slut and had absolutely no right what so ever to do so. The only thing any of you know about me is that I am with him. Really honestely at this point its just turned into excessive drama that no one needs to deal with. If you really cared about him like you claim, you would let him go because his happiness would be more important to you than your own. If you were really sorry about last night and really happy for us then why did you say what you said to him, knowing that I would probably find out about it? Her: because that was my sister who called u a slut and who wrote the message i dident know you to were back together but thanks cause me and him just worked shit out to and are back together so i guess again hes with both of us soo and let him be happy if he wasent would he still be coming back to me cause he knows i love him and can give him the live he wants Me: Okay and what right does your sister have calling me a slut? He and I never broke up, nor do I intend to. Just because you say you love him, dosent mean the feelings are necessarialy reciprocated. You may just have your feelings mixed with familiarity and infatuation. I trust him and know he wouldnt cheat. Believe what you would like but I am done with this bullshit high school drama.
She sounds like a hosebag to me. If you and your bf are happy and you feel secure in the relationship, don't worry too much. How is your bf feeling about this right now? What steps is he taking to distance himself from her? Her behavior sounds obsessive and borders on stalking, which is pathetic. I've never had to deal with a crazy jealous ex, and I've never been a crazy jealous ex (most of my relationships ended mutually or amicably and I'm friends with most of my exes and watch them date new people and don't get mad), but this girl sounds like she has serious issues. Your bf or you should not have to put up with it.
Man you don't really have much luck in relationships... I woud break the relationship off, what was he doing with her in the first place?
Obviously he liked her at some point, but she's obviously crazy so he broke up with her. Is that a reason to break up with this dude, just cuz he has a crazy ex? The crazy bitch is just trying to drive a wedge inbetween them- and you propose lakeoffire lets her.
there is really no pressure besides his creepy ex and he cant control her actions or help what she says or does
A few days ago you were asking how to tell if your bf is cheating on you. Now you say that you and him have a strong relationship and she's the only issue. Do you totally trust him? I'm not saying he's cheating and it does sound like she's a coniving witch, putting her nose in where it doesnt belong. But you reacted really harshly in two other posts before this one. Was that because of the situation or the past?
how do you know he isn't with both of you? had a guy pull that with me before. made the mistake of doing it within our circle of friends. otherwise he might of not of got caught
Yeah, you and your bf should get a restraining order if she keeps bugging you guys - that ain't cool.
It seems like there is a lot of drama going on. My only advice would be make sure you REALLY like the guy enough to keep putting up with it because it is unlikely to go away. I'd make sure he wasn't feeding the ex lies. There are some people (men and women) that get a thrill out of people fighting over them. Rarely are they worth fighting over...... OP: You seem like someone with a lot of love to give....why not give it to someone who will appreciate it. If you really feel the need for bad drama watch Jerry Springer or daytime soaps....they'll do less damage to you.
well yes but something happened and because of his reaction it made me realize what a good person he is. I was kinda judging him due to the past. and crystal, i dont think he is with both of us because why would he tell everyone he broke up with the other girl and directley after introduce me as his new girlfriend? why would he ask me to be his girlfriend if he was still dating her and even persist when i turned him down the first few times? and why would he call her up and tell her he wants absolutely nothing to do with her, right in front of me? none of that would work if he was dating both of us.
"I was kinda judging him due to the past." That's what you are supposed to do. Guys don't change. "and crystal, i dont think he is with both of us because why would he tell everyone he broke up with the other girl and directley after introduce me as his new girlfriend?" Cause he didn't want you to know? "why would he ask me to be his girlfriend if he was still dating her and even persist when i turned him down the first few times?" Cause he's a man and two chicks are better than one at his age. You turning him down made him want you more. "and why would he call her up and tell her he wants absolutely nothing to do with her, right in front of me? none of that would work if he was dating both of us." To try and sell his line of BS. He was hittin it...not sure if he still is.
tell him you want to stop seeing him cause you can't handle the drama. if he truly cares about you he may start trying much harder to distance himslef from the girl in an effort to get you to come back.
