hellooo.. i've been with my boyfriend for a year now and it has been an great time.. ups and downs all the time as usual... he recently moved away to Rotherham in yorkshire for a new job as an apprentice for Npower it involves him being away for four years back at weekends and half term times.... recently i have been seeing him every weekend until last weekend he text me on the friday to wish me happy aniversary and that was it... he ignored me the rest of the weekend until he came online an said he was very tierd all the time and just felt so drained with work... he was in one of his moods where he shuts everyone out and just dont want to be around anyone.. it makes me feel that i have done something wrong towards him as he pushes me out aswell.... Is that a male thing? When he does this i start to worry an panic that maybe i have done or said something wrong and he is annoyed with me his is not the type to cheat but at the weekend when i was upset i spoke to his sister and said maybe he has someone else she moaned at me and thourght i was being silly.... Recently i have been having bad dreams such as car crashes... being in prison...new things happening at work.. new faces.. im worried that one day with him being away we will grow apart and split which we will both hate as we love each other and have plans with one another... sometimes i worry too much or think negative to much and that puts an affect on us as a couple... i get things in my head that worries me as many people probably do its like being parinoid... we don't communicate while he is away this is due to the fact that we notice time flys bye plus then we are both not down as much and concentrate on other things and we appreicate it when we see each other... what im asking for is advice on weather im being silly in what im thinking while he is away.. is it a male thing with the moods as its not the first time.. why am i getting the dreams that im getting? thank you x
Not all men want to open up and express thier innermost thoughts when they have a bad day. So, yeah, in some ways it is a "guy thing." When my husband needs space I give it to him. I have found the worst thing to do is get clingy and pawn off my insecurities on him when he is already stressed. Hardest lesson to learn in a relationship is that it isn't always about you. I know it took me a while to understand my husbands crappy mood usually had nothing to do with me. Some days are just lousy! We all have them, and it's frustrating trying to console someone else when all you want is to be left alone. Just realize what will be....will be, and stop freaking when he is having an off day. That will push him away in the long run, and is best to get it under control. Let him know you're there if he needs you, but give him some breathing room. He will appreciate you for your understanding.
