Dreams of my boyfriend with a lack of emotion

I have been with my boyfriend for almost nine months now, and we truly believe and know that we are soul mates. We plan to spend the rest of our lives together, and naturally I have dreams concerning him.

The only thing is that my dreams are sometimes a little bit disturbing to me.. when any sort of affection for each other takes place in my dream such as kissing or even just hugging, I have noticed that in my dreams he seems to be detached and preoccupied, maybe even devoid of feeling in the action..just not really putting any emotion in it. It even took a while for any sort of affection to even occur in my dreams of him, which we both find to be odd. But I know that this would not be the case in reality, as we both love each other very much.. but unfortunately he lives across the state and we have never actually met yet.

I am wondering if it is just my anxiety of those physical affections actually taking place in the future, that I am afraid what is happening in my dreams is what will happen possibly?

Thank you&please respond.

 

Are you holding anything back?

If anything it is probably a dream of contradiction, that being emotionaless may mean full acceptance (as soul mates are wont to do.)

For you to dream of him kissing you you would first need to have a real desire in the waking state. Then that obession would manifest as a dream. Since in real life you are always "lovey-dovey" there is no reason to dream about it.

I think I see an opportunity, when where in your dream state you ask your lover pertinent and very personal questions. In other words, a continuation of your daily life, but one where, knowing that you are both mated, the relationship grows even more in the dream state, to the spiritual level. For instance, you could decide to discuss the workings of the universe, decide to take etheral space trips, flights, sight seeings. That dream may then manifest in the real world as a desire to increase your travel, to go to spiritual places, get full body massages, visit spas, go hiking, etc.

The dream is probably not saying anything about him but always about ourselves because they are our dream symbols. So, if you are completely relaxed in each others arms, then why want to dream of your lover kissing you? Those types of symbols will herald certain events. Since those events are not coming then your relationship is probably going smoothly.

peace.

 

My first feeling about what you said is that you are not 100% confident that the two of you are going in the same direction. It is like in the reality of your relationship everything is fantastic and you probably are soul mates but you have still a bit of self doubt within you. This is reflected by his pre-occupation. If you give 100% without holding back, without doubting then you will surely be free of this feeling and dream.

Stu

 

I think it's pretty obvious you're unsure of your relationship. You're sure that you two are soul mates yet you have yet to meet? Don't you think that sounds a bit absurd? Are you in middle school? You need to protect yourself and your feelings kid, and your subconscious is clearly trying to tell you that.

Lotion in the Basket

 

okay... this person has been your boyfriend for 9 months and you have never even met?? hmm... sometimes fantasys can be so much more appealing than real life.. but seriously, tho you guys talk over the net or phone or whatever, actions speak so much louder than words. tho you may think you know this person well, im sorry to say, there is no way you could as much as you think you do.. im sorry, ive been there, we all have. but, i agree with the 'lotion in the basket', your subconscious is trying to warn you. listen to it.

 

call me crazy but im a firm beleiver in meeting someone before knowing if their youre soulmate or not