Hey all- so I feel like such a naive little girl, but I was recently made aware of the fact that my bf, while he always cums, as in ejaculates during sex, does not in fact orgasm MOST of the time. This distresses me a great deal. While I usually only get off once in awhile, I figured at least one of us was usually getting off. So... any advice on how to make sure he does? He is not the easiest to discuss things with, but we are pretty open. As for me I can usually take care of myself, But i just feel very bad about this whole thing now. thanks!
Perhaps you're confusing pre-cum with cum. All you need to do is not to stop when the pre-cum (lubrication) begins. Use that pre-cum as a sign that he's close, and go until he gets soft and a great deal of cum appears.
Sublimer, can you not feel it in you? Unless he shoots a couple of drops, you should be able to feel his stuff. And if yall use condoms, why dont you just look at the condom afterwards?
Mhmm, I can't think of any reason why your guy doesn't orgasm. Sometimes (along with clear pre-cum) guys will squirt a little bit of actual semen before actually orgasming. Just keep going. Try jerking him off or something instead of sex to confirm stuff haha.
um, orgasm can be separate from ejaculation for many men. i dont think the above posters are recognizing the difference youre referring to in this thread, heh and some guys it just takes more stimulation, or a certain kind. no orgasm doesnt mean you arent having fun, does it? same for him, sex is still great even if he doesnt get to orgasm and ejaculates before he reaches orgasm. my bf has that happen now and then (moreoften with masturbation than with me but anyway) when he rushes it and hurries to get off, doesnt take the time to go slow what really gets your guy goin? biting his neck? a particular kind of foreplay? does you using a vibe on yoru clit translate the vibrations to his cock in a pleasant way? (does for my gent) does he like it when you dirty talk to him, or say certain things? if you can find a few of his stronger/better buttons itll lead him to orgasm more often (though its never a guarantee)
I can sometimes cum (full) without having orgasm, however it never happened to me during sex, and even so when it happens I could reach orgasm within instant. so it's hard to imagine such thing: how you know he didn't reach orgasm?
