NEED ADVICE BAD!! I like my bfs ex gf :|

Hey Everyone

Where to beginnnnnn?? Well, I met my boyfriends ex about 5 years ago when they were still together and I was with my ex boyfriend. We were at my current boyfriends (We'll call him Jay) birthday party. Everyone got drunk and Jays girlfriend started to hit on me. I was 15 or 16 at the time, so it was new for me to be hit on by a girl, but I enjoyed it. Anyway, nothing happend, my bf at the time cought her hitting on me and stopped it.

So after that, I got over it and it didn't bother me. Now, for some reason, 5 years later, after they've been broken up for over 2 years and after Jay and I have had a baby togther (1 on the 24th!!) I find myself strongly attracted to her. Not just a "oh, she's hot" type of attraction, like a strong sexual attraction. The weird thing is is that I haven't spoken to her in a few years. Though the other day I saw her at the mall, I don't think she saw me though.

Anyway, I don't know what to do. It's like when you want something so bad, but you can't get it and it drives you insane. It's on my mind all the time.

I spoke to my boyfriend about it tonight, I told him how I feel. He was cool with it, not mad or anything. He just said it's weird (not weird that I'm attracted to another woman, I guess just that it's his ex), but "it's cool" and then I said I don't know what to do and he asked if I wanted to go to her place. I laughed and said "Hi, I'm the girl that you hit on when we were both drunk" I told him that she won't remember me, but he said she would. Aparently she thought I was hot and wanted me or something lol.

So, we left the conversation at that, he said it'll go away and didn't really go into anything else after that.... then he went to sleep and here I am, going insane!! LoL

What would you do in my situation??

Thanks everyone

- L

 

if i were you i'd give her a call and explain to her how you feel (or felt) and see where it goes from there, it'd be unhealthy to just ignore these feelings you have or had for her.

good luck

- franzde

 

Go over her place lol,.I would let her know but before you do know what your intentions are and how you bf feels about expirementing and so on.Ignoring it will only make you more insane.
j...

 

Oh, sorry. Where's cottonmouth when you need it. Um ..yeah go for it, baby...just don't build up any expectations of will happen, cuz things are always changing.

 

I'd definitely say something, especially since your boyfriend was encouraging you to go over and talk to her. If he says she'd remember you, then she probably would. Plus, you remember her, so why do you think she wouldn't remember you? Maybe something fun and exciting (and maybe long-term and serious) will come of it and everyone will be happy how it turns out. When it comes to love, you have to be willing to take chances, or you'll end up lonely and unhappy, even if you're not actually alone. Better to be alone and happy than with someone you're unhappy with. But that's just my opinion. Your boyfriend obviously wants you to be happy, or else he wouldn't have suggested going to see her...

 

I agree with them you should let her know and also for your own sake so you wont be wondrin' around thinking what could have happened. Like as for me it happened the same thing, i'v been having this sexual attraction with my bf's ex but nothing happened to us. I guess its just not my luck and i understand her coz im the first one who hit on her, knowing we are the same sex.. Im not letting you down but its better late than never. Everybody's different as well.