so im 19, and istill have not had a girlfriend in my entire life... its startingt to get me down. I try to stay positive but it just seems my self esteem is going down, and tht'll make me even less likely to get a grl. I just dont know what to do anymore.... i dont feel like this all the time, but every once in a while i do
not that important, im 19 and i have only had 2 "relationsihps" but i dont even count them cause ive learned so much from them that i now kno i wasnt even emotionally invested anyway
girls suck. I don't see any reason why you would not have a girlfriend, most are just insecure attention whores anyway.. try to meet more mature people who learn to love themselves as well or it will just be a waste of time
Sweetie, I am 26, and I can't say I've ever had a real relationship with someone who was faithful to me (as I would prefer) or where I had a real commitment. You need to relax, and it'll come when it's meant to. (Me, I'm getting antsy. )
don't worry, I know a guy who is 27 and still a virgin... After 20 y old, girls kind know better what's best for them. They than won't go out with jerks or big muscle idiots just because they are "cool". If your a good guy, you'll get a girl, and a good one.
I don't buy the ''if you're a good guy'' that you're gonna get a girlfriend, we all know that's bullshit. I'm a good guy, every girl tells it to me, why the fuck haven't I got a girlfriend yet eh? Weird? I'm asking myself the same question.. And to the topic creator, cheer up buddy, you will meet a beautiful lady and she will be very nice with you and you guys are gonna become a couple! Except those kind of girls are rare but she will come
I think the point he was making was that younger girls ahve raging hormones and what not and tend to go out with good looking assholes. While girls who are older then 20 have learned it better to go with a guy who has a good personality... Idk, thanks for the support u guys i feel better already, thanks so much!!!
In my opinion, this is true both sexes until you reach your 20s/mid 20s. I'm kind of in the same situation, but I'm not a guy. lol Just try to look at the positive side - they're wasting their time, you are not. A relationship based on raging hormones? LOL won't go far.
So youre 19...thats still really young! Whats the big rush? It aint a race. When its meant to happen itll happen I wouldnt worry one bit
I have a couple of friends in a similar boat. I think you recognized a big part of the problem already - you know that if you freak out about it, it's just going to get worse. You just have to understand that going on a date is no big deal. After you go on a few, you will realize how simple it is... two humans getting together, trying to have a good time. You also should realize that at least 80% of people go through their lives without ever really finding a deeply meaningful relationship. Maybe I am being a real pessimist, but I don't know all that many people who are happily married. What does this mean? It means that A. you don't need to be jealous of those with relationships, because they probably aren't that great anyway, and it will just get you in a negative headspace where you are that much more likely not to find love and also that B. there are many many people in your same boat or even MUCH OLDER who are struggling with this. I am sort of dating someone right now, but a week ago I wasn't... I have had several long, serious relationships, but just a few days ago, guess what? We were still in the same exact boat - single and looking. But it's ok, I've learned there is nothing wrong with being there. In fact, it's an exciting place to be, because being totally single is the only place from which the most amazing relationship of your dreams could potentially start at any time! So look at it with a positive attitude, viewing it as an opportunity, and you will be well on your way to success. Good luck man, although if you can be yourself and be a kind and considerate person who isn't afraid to express himself, you won't need it.
