going to come clean about smoking

okay, i'm planning on confronting my rents about smoking because i'm pretty sure they already know, and if i start the talk before they do, i'll probably get a bit of an advantage...Just this monday, my dad caught me and my friends behind my garage before school..when he asked what we were doing, i said just hanging out, and when we asked what he was doing, he said he was inspecting his floor...seriously, who comes out at 7:30 in the morning because they thought they saw a crack in their garage floor? we're pretty sure he heard us toking up...and then again, just today, my mom looked me in the eye, said she smelt smoke on my breath, and asked if i'd been smoking...I said no, and she let me go upstairs..
im planning on just telling them I smoke, and trying to convince them that it's really not the worst thing in the world, so if anyone can give me any good points to make to them, i'd really appreciate it..also, i'm pretty sure my dad's smoked a couple of times..y'know, yoga/tai chi student in the 80's, was a massager for a while, and i know my mom's ridiculously anti drug..

oh yeah, turns out my friends brother grows, and he sells us some dank ass shit cheap. xD...just..y'know..a positive end

 

i really dont feel like typing alot right now but i dont want you to go do something stupid so listen to this...you WILL regret telling them. Now wait for other people to post, sry for the weird advice

 

yea i would just keep it cool until you get older. i smoked alot when i was younger and my parents always knew and said stuff but it wasnt a big deal. just be careful what you do and what you leave around. if ur really only 15 they might put the lockdown on it if u tell me so id wait a while. my parents know now and dont care but i dunno about ur parents. i never liked cigarettes so if they do find anything weed related just say its better then smoking cigarettes. i dunno just my opinion maybe some other people will have some better comments

 

haha, i know you want to do they right thing and be honest... but seriously, you will regret it... lol. I have been there for sure. My parents know pretty much everything about me... i thought they knew i smoked weed, and i told them anyway (damn conscience). So my mom cried and basically had me on watch forever until i moved out, and evben sold my car! like wtf. and they started going through my shit, which they never did before. i wish i would have never told them. I still smoke an insane amount of pot everyday, and i get good grades and am in my senior year of college... now i dont talk about it with them 'cause im 23 and its not their business. im pretty sure they think i stopped a long time ago. its your life, you don't have to tell them everything.

 

honestly just tell them they will probaly find out anyway. i agree with you when u say you have the advantage. if i wasn;t such a chicken shit i would tell my rents to. also you didn't say much about your rents are they religous, clean cut freaks, or are they more open-minded or smoked when they were younger type? also it depends on your behavior at home if your a good kid and get good grades it will be much easier for you to make an agrument for your smoking. anyway whatever you decide on good luck.

 

I had three friends all tell there parents. Well, they said that they were considering doing it, and wanted there opinons. And they all said it was cool once and a while. Then my parents caught me, and i was able to talk them into letting me smoke. Coming clean is the best way. Or just say you want to try it.

 

get straight A's & - then - tell them.

 

Agreed^

 

maybe you should just tell your dad. One of my friends has an anti drug mother and a idle dad...so he told his dad and his dad sort of turns a blind eye on it thus his mum thinks its all fine due to a seemingly un-suspicious father

 

They will look at u totally different and not respect u as much. Thats what happened to me.

 

it really goes either way depending on your parents, when i got caught i got a lot of shit (guilt trips, lectures etc) and i had my room searched from top to bottom. i tried showing my parents research i did about weed not being so bad for you and they just disregarded it and my mom said "if i ever catch you again i'll make your life suck" so i've made sure not to get caught, but my point is your parents might just fuck you over even if you're being honest. just be cautious, you know your parents better than any of us.

 

If your dad smokes just confront him in a mature way about how you smoke. Maybe you could even smoke a bowl with him and have some quality father-son bonding. Just explain how you really respect him respecting your choices and stuff. Just keep in mind that you're the one who is right. Your "ridiculously anti drug" mother is out of the loop and most likely holds no logic and reason to her decision to be that way.

 

thanks for the advice everyone..decided not to tell my parents, and sorry i posted so late, was at an aunts memorial

 

I will never tell my parents that I smoke ganja. I'm fucking 19 and they don't know I smoke cigarettes, or at least I haven't told them and I sorta hide it from them. I hope they smell the cigarettes on me one day so they ask. I'll just say yea. I feel like I'm still 16.

 

My family knows and I don't think they respect me as much for it, but I don't care I'm going to do what I'm going to do either way.

 

im 15 to and smoked seens i was 9 and my parents know but i was arrested 2 times for it my dad dont care he just dont want to see it my grandad buys me beer and will lend me mony for pot but my mom is like way antidrug so i prity much told her i wasent going to stopp last time i got arested and she dont wach me but i lost respect and trust from her and thats the worst to loss but idk cuz im at that point that i just dont give a fuck but u will wish u didnt a first dont do it trust me

 

wait till you have a's.

it paid off for me.

 

if my moms catches me, im just gonna say. its my choice, and its no different than the time you chose to smoke your first cigarette or drink you first alchoholic beverage.

 

jusdino4it has a great point. if you talk to one (or both) of your parents seriously and explain them in a nice long speech how you feel like trying it - preferably with them - to see how its like. Tell them you feel like being honest with them and don't feel like blocking them out of your life by rebeling and trying something behind their back. Then thats how you will be able to see whether or not they can accept that you do it. If they say "sure, you can try it" then obviously they wont mind once they see you smoking because you would have told them. If they say something like "no way! your my son and i would never let you do something like that!" or some random parental speech, then obviously say "I'm sorry, you are right. I was just curious, but it's for the best that i dont try" and dont come clean about it. Hope this advice helps!

 

Getting good grades is key, it shows your parents that mairjuana isn't affecting your performance in school.

Second semester I plan on working my ass off for good grades, and maybe tell my mom that I started smoking second semester and it helped my grades. Then again my mother is bipolar, and she would probably kill me.