My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and lately, like the past 2-3 months he barely wants to ever have sex. Its turned into once a week and we used to do it every time we were together and usually more than once. Now its once a week...I spend every weekend with him at his house and every night he says we're going to and then when its time he just says he's tired or just doesnt make any moves and if I make the moves he'll stop me. I dont understand. It makes me feel like he doesnt like being with me. To go from doing it almost everyday of the week to this...I can't help but get upset because I love having sex with him and feeling how close we are then. I've talked to him a couple times and he keeps saying he likes having sex to me and always wants to. That just makes me more upset because it just doesn't happen...Idk do any of you have an opinions on why he's like this...or what i can do...thank you.
I'm in a perod when i don't feel like having sex, and it has nothing to do with my bf. I just need more atention, thenderness, even more talking than sex.... maby he is going trough the same thing?
maybe your putting too much emphasis on the sex? insteadx of just lettig it happen naturaly, your making it too important.. why arent we having sex, lets have sex, come on, ypu promiced wed have sex.. that doesnt exactly make the mood seek closeness through othr means, conversation, romance, take a trip together & stop making sex such a big deal & it will most likely turn around for ya
i tell myself that...and i need to work hard on that because i enjoy being with him in that way so much. sex wasnt and isnt what our relationship is based on so i hope i didnt make it sound that way. thank you for answering.
any new stressors in his life? stress can kill libido, as can pressure or demands to be a great lover, etc. and maybe he feels objectified, or like youre focusing too much on sex
When a partner stops wanting sex why is the automatic reaction "I'm so upset and feel like they don't want me" ???? Why do people beat themselves up because their partner isn't gung ho like they used to be? Sex waxes and wanes in any relationship so it's something everyone learns to deal with. Some people whine, and others take action in their relationship. If you are in the mood and your partner isn't.....masturbate....who knows, maybe taking the pressure off of your partner will get him back in the mood. I think people that just "suddenly" stop wanting sex are tired of feeling like they do all the work Even though they may not be doing it all, if they feel like they are there are bound to be problems. Like Soaring Eagle said "it isn't all about sex" and a healthy relationship isn't.
