Ok simple question:- Mainly for the girls How do u like to meet your boyfriends or potential boyfriends. ( Guys might wanna say how they like to meet their girls too) Is it:- 1)Picked up in a club or busy bar 2) Picked up in a pub /your local pub / quieter bar 3)A work colleague / college colleague 4)Through a friend or family 5)a neighbour or thro a neighnour 6)through a hobby 7)internet dating 8)through the internet - a mutual interest etc 9)picked up eg in the supermarket or somewhere / a shop /the gym etc 10) a friend of your ex , or something similar 11)anywhere else - I cant really think.( please specify) I just wonder , who here is "suspicious " of someone they pick up in a bar , or cautious about "office romances" etc? One of my female friends swears by internet dating , personally I think that seems a really weird way , but each to their own...( Maybe I'm a bit old fashioned but that seems too "geekish" or "clinical". Is a "mutual friend " / hobby the way you feel most comfortable about the person? regards all Ressotspiks
well, my boyfriend and i were friends before he asked me out, and he asked me out at a dance, so i would have to say...a dance?
Hmm I meant to say "through a mutual friend" and "dating a friend" as the same category. Sort of the issue I was getting at is that lots of girls ( and guys even) are suspicious about some one they pick up in a club - as if theyre a "player" or a "playerette" (? ) . ( Is there such a thing??!!) I mean would u have dated him had he have been a stranger in that club/disco?
I prefer the cold approach. I found that most men and women are "suspicious" of someone they pick up in a bar because not enough rapport is built during the interaction. Most men and women(I've done research) try to number close within the 1st 5 min. of meeting someone which usually results in flakes. The only real way to avoid suspision is to portray a non-threatening personality. It usually takes 30 min. rapport building to get a non-flake number.
internet dating is how ive met most of my boyfriends... 5/7 were met online. including my current one, who im planning on marrying. but yeah, its a bit nerdy/geeky, but so am i and so is my guy. its nice because you have a bit of a screening process, decide if you like their profile, talk online for a while befor eyou actually give out your phone number or go for coffee or whatever.
-college colleague -through a friend or family And definately not online...thats just too weird and freaky....