How do you pick a partner (inspired by WarmHandedCanadian's post)

Discussion in 'Random Thoughts' started by Bella Désordre, Nov 3, 2007.

  1. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

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    Just curious. Do you have logic in picking the man you are going to marry or do you rely on chemistry?
     
  2. Autentique

    Autentique wonderfabulastic

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    It's weird answering this question, because Im thinking of my boyfriend and how I "picked" him and there was no picking, it was all some weird magnetic force that's been going on since ever and the universe pulled us together exactly at the right time and I found in him someone I known since the beginning of time....
     
  3. ruski

    ruski Senior Member

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    mostly chemistry. i cant be with someone if there isnt something there... i dont pick people they usually pick me. and then i just see if i like them or not heh.
     
  4. Greengirl

    Greengirl Senior Member

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    Maybe its silly, maybe its naive but i belive in soulmates. And i belive i have found mine. I love him and i belive he loves me. I dont want to be with anybody else than him if i have to be truly honest, and i dont think i would ever want to. I dont care if after some years he feel the need for a physical change and fucks with other chiks. I dont find the physical so important. What is important for me is the mind and personality connection. He is my best frined and he is the one that understands me and i know he always will. As long as he doesnt cheat on me from the inside...like falling inlove with somebody else or making a deeper soul connection with somebody else im cool with things. Im all for the free love. I can fuck whoever i want if i want to and he can too. But i can never love someone else. And i know i am going to marry him if we ever get married, coz i dont really respect that marige thing and all.
     
  5. Autentique

    Autentique wonderfabulastic

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    :)
    I believe in soulmates too and I have found mine, so I understand EXACTLY how you feel, except for the sleeping with other people and all that.. that's a no, no.
     
  6. Naoki_ninja

    Naoki_ninja Bruce Lee's hero

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    this is alittle hard for me to answer as well, because, i didn't really choose my boyfriend; he chose me! we had gone to a dance together as friends, and we were friends for a long time before the dance. i had no idea that he had liked me the whole time that we were hanging out, and then at the dance he asked me out! lol. and even after he did, i was still alittle weirded out by it! i was attracted to him, but i didn't have that deep rooted love connection yet. but, after a month, i realized that he was the part of me that i was misssing, considering all of the past relationships that ended up in failure. i have been going out with my boyfriend now for almost 9 months, and who knows? we have a very good chance of one day getting married.~~
     
  7. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i don't plan on marrying a man, but if i did i would probably rely on logic because i don't think i would have any chemistry of that sort with any man
     
  8. Bella Désordre

    Bella Désordre Charmed

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    I realized today that I made a completley logical decision in picking my fiance (yes, I picked him...even though my pride lwants me to think differently). I mean don't get me wrong we have great chemistry and the best sex I have ever had, but what solidified it for me is knowing that he is going to be the best husband and father in the world.

    My other choices weren't too logical, or I was staying with people beneath me for the sake of not wanting to be alone. But after loving being alone finally I met my soulmate, someone who will be my best friend for life-not someone who only spoils me and is hot in bed. I feel so lucky that I have the whole package.

     
  9. LuckyStripe

    LuckyStripe Mundane.

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    Love and Trust. Trust entails A LOT. Think about it.


    If both fit... it's a miracle...


    (responsiblity is a part of trust)


    Love entails a lot too. Lust is totally different. Love with lust.... .............. :D
     
  10. Hyphy

    Hyphy Duke of Earl

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    I don't know about long term but, I usually pick my girl by how challenging they are. nothing worth while comes easy.
     
  11. LuckyStripe

    LuckyStripe Mundane.

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    Ahahaha... seriously aient dat the truth though..... I cannot explain how much I agree. :D
     
  12. BraveSirRubin

    BraveSirRubin Members

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    I agree... the ones that are hard to get are usually truly worth it.
     
  13. LuckyStripe

    LuckyStripe Mundane.

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    Omg!


    for reals man :D


    :cheers:


    (no one has any idea or maybe... ahhh)
     
  14. DancerAnnie

    DancerAnnie Resident Beach Bum

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    Logic plays no part in love...
     
  15. ruski

    ruski Senior Member

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    i knew when my man kissed me for the first time that he was different to other guys. he is one in a million.

    i think i was really lucky, cos i didnt do anything. he saw me and liked how i looked in a lab coat, so he started sitting next to me and talking to me and writing on my books. if he saw i was alone (i usually like sitting alone) he'd go and sit with me even though his friends were giving him looks.
    we are both people pleasers so we dont take advantage of each other and we do appreciate each other. we are the type of people who usually give more than the other partner and get taken for granted. so it's perfect we're together really.

    it's really weird... people always say they want a relationship like ours and how we are the perfect couple.... we have unknowingly started arguements between couples who feel discontent after seeing us together..... we both think that's strange.
     
  16. Radiation

    Radiation Ruling the Nation

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    When Choosing The Man I'm Going To Marry, I Usually Base That Decision On Dick Size
     
  17. Hyphy

    Hyphy Duke of Earl

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    LOL. props, you made me spit out kool-aid.
     
  18. lode

    lode Banned

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    Two women. Russian roulette. Winner takes me.

    Maybe I should lower my standards.
     
  19. spooner

    spooner is done.

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    When single I'm really fun at a party. Then girls try to change me. Then they get frusterated and I start partying and the cycle continues.
     
  20. mamaKCita

    mamaKCita fucking stupid.

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    a bit of both.
     
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