Suggestions on how to get a girlfriend?

Well, I'm 18 and to be honest I sometimes feel I will never lose my virginty especially since I've never even had a girlfriend (and actually if I had to choose, I'd rather have a deep meaningful relationship than just have sex). I don't think there's anything wrong with my personality, all my friends really like me and I don't have any enemies, I make people laugh just by talking and through the films I make, it's just that I'm shy... it takes people weeks of hanging out with me until they ACTUALLY know me. Also, I'm a bit over weight (chubby is probably the best word) but I've been working out latley, so I don't know how that will turn out.

And (even for just the sex part of it) I don't wanna just go out and pick up some dumb whore who will screw anything that moves. In general I find myself completley turned off by stupid or slutty girls and very attracted to intelligent girls who I can actually talk to about things. Unfortunatley, MOST of the girls at my particular high school are really stupid, really slutty, and/or just really materialistic/shallow, and it really annoys me. I know this is usually just an immaturity thing, and I know not all high school girls are like this, but I can't seem to find any at my particular high school who aren't like this.

I might be overracting, but what do you guys think? And again just to clarify, I would much rather have a strong relationship than a one night stand or something. Thanks for any advice, and sorry for the long read.

 

What should be done 1st is rewiring your circuitry. What you think a woman is attracted to and what they are actually attracted to are very different. Women are hard wired to respond to, what is called, Survival Value. It's based on basic human nature, hell, nature itself. Our 1st purpose in life? To survive. Our 2nd purpose? to replicate. Looks, ALWAYS comes second no matter what a girl says. Her survival value is what really matters. How do you portray yourself to have high Survival Value? Demonstrate it. Here are some key survival attraction switches women have:

1. You must show her that you're safe. Trust is an important issue for most women. This must be demonstrated. So switch #1: in order to proceed, you need SAFETY and TRUST.

2. You must show her that you have either ambition, motivation, or job/financial security. In other words, you must have a life and goals. So switch #2 is demonstrating to her that you have STABILITY and AMBITION. You don't have to be successful, you just have to show the potential to be successful (unless you're in your 30s, at which point you should have achieved something).

3. You must show her that you're different than the other guys, that you are not generic or boring, that she can learn something from you or grow with you, that you have a sense of adventure or creativity or spirituality. So switch #3 is showing her that you HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER, even if you don't give it to her in the moment. This is where DHVs are useful.

4. You must be the PRIZE of the room. She wants a guy others will envy her for, that she can brag about to her friends. This is where social proof comes in, where story-telling comes in. It's also where alpha qualities come in, cocky/funny, and not supplicating. So switch #4 is demonstrating all of the many qualities of CONFIDENCE, LEADERSHIP, AUTHORITY, and POPULARITY

5. It's a big world and we all feel alone in it, so if you can demonstrate that you UNDERSTAND her and where she comes from, she will feel chemistry. This can largely be done through demonstrating either cultural, mental, emotional, world view, humor, or life/background commonalities. The more obscure and rare a trait that you connect on, the more chemistry you create. So Switch #5 is demonstrating COMMONALITIES in order to trigger CHEMISTRY.

6. You need an aura of depth and mystery. You must maybe show a vulnerable or wounded side of yourself, you must not give away everything for free, you must be a puzzle she wants to figure out and maybe even have a wound she can heal. Switch #6 then is hooking her with your DEPTH and MYSTERY.

7. You must show her that you are NOT horny, but sexual. This is where social proof comes in too, also demonstrating an understanding of her world (liking her for who SHE is). So switch #7 is demonstrating your own LACK OF DESPERATION while showing her that you RECOGNIZE SOMETHING SPECIAL IN HER THAT ATTRACTS YOU TO HER. This is where QUALIFYING is useful, in other words demonstrating that you like her for who she is--even if you are a player.

So I think these are the main switches. I'm open to corrections and additions. Now, if you can FLIP these, she's really going to be into you. It's solid game.

You need to get it out of your head that looks matter, because they don't. After you get this basic undersanding, we'll go on from there. but, only if you want.

 

internet dating sites. there are some decent free one sout there. thats where i met most of my boyfriends, including the current one who im gonna marry