As a person i feel confident & succeful in every way. i have no problems with my appearance & social life or who i am as a person, but everytime i really fall for someone i end up feeling like shit about myself. When im single everything goes fine. i excell at everything i do & feel happy & with a balanced life. But nearly everytime ive been in love & really cared about a guy ive ended up feeling kind of worthless. & its got nothing to do with the guys im dating, they were all great guys, supportive & caring. but i always doubted thier sincerety & sometimes responded in ways that hurt them. i think im unable to make my relationships work because of my self esteem probem. the problem only surfaces when i fall in love with someone, otherwise i feel great. ive already caused major arguments with people i really love telling them really hurtful irrational things just because i feel like crap & wont accept if they really love me. its repeating again with a guy i really like. i just want to maintain my confidence but im afraid im going to have weak moments, like lastnight we were at a party & he didnt pay me enough attention, i was drinking which made me behave irrationally, & i stormed out of the party. Then stormed back in just to say "well arent you even going to say goodbye to me" & then started to say that he wasnt even interested in me. now that i look back on this im thinking shit im so stupid i should have just stayed home lastnight. Now he is going to think i am complicated or needy. I really try to maintain this image of being a carefree relaxed girl because i dont want him to see me as a responsibilty. but lastnight i think i blew it.
You just haven't found a guy who is right for you yet. If you were with the right guy for you he would have been by your side all night and would feel honored that your neediness is needy of him. HUGS
no offense, but i think that's terrible advice because most people do not like neediness. some people do have a higher tolerance for it than others. i don't really have a problem with it, but i tend to gently nudge people towards more independence because i know they'll be happier. excessive neediness is not only usually unattractive to others, but also makes the people who feel that way unhappy too. how much better she would have felt about herself if she could happily circulate through the party talking to people and having a good time...while occasionally meeting eyes with her bf across the room and giving him a nice smile. i have a funny feeling he probably would have preferred that too...so she's right...she probably did blow it. but everyone has a bad day now and then, so my advice is pick yourself up and brush yourself off and try to do better next time.
anyway my boyfreind is a DJ so he cant stay by my side all night. & he knew everyone at that party & i think i was partly right to feel left out because he didnt introduce me to any of his freinds which was really uneducated of him. but after we argued about it. he was really attentative. but i thought he was just doing it cos i he thought i was angry & not cos he really was interested. anyway this week i will see if he calls to see me again
I dated a DJ for awhile and couldn't handle it. Too many girls going after him. He is the only guy I've been with who broke plans with me. It was for work most of the time...but still ickkkkk. I can't stand waiting by the phone.
My chick is needy and wants my attention all the time. Personally, I don't mind, it's actually a plus that she wants to be with me so much. I can hold her in my arms the whole day if need be. Make it a lifetime and I STILL wouldn't mind.
ever since ive moved to rio de janeiro i havent been able to find nice guys that really care... i mean they all seem so superficial here.. just want to have sex a few times & then after one week they stop calling....
