Hey everybody, well the past few days ive had 2 dreams. both of them concerning my girlfriend of 2 months this thursday. The first one was very vague and it was that she dumped me, i dont remember exactly why but i woke up in an awful mood and told her about it and she hugged me and i got sad and she told me shed never ever do that. and i really deeply believe that. the next one took place last night... i was on a crime scene and found out that she had been strangled, and she bruises on her neck and both of her arms....that was most of the dream that i remember, there may be more, just ask if you have an idea. but i love this girl more than anything and im confident that its just like nightmare, can someone help me out? thanks
Her dumping you in a dream is probably contrary, it means the opposite - that she will remain true and faithful. As to strangulation, it might mean that you can't try to hold her, that you shouldn't smother her, that you should give her a little breathing space. Like wise the arm injuries might be from your holding onto her too tightly, from holding her back, from stopping her from growing. So, the problem, if there is any, is not her but you. Cherish her for the sweet person she is but don't smother her and make her leave you.
that makes me feel sooo much better about us staying together. but the smothering thing is kind of weird to me. i feel like i give her all the space she needs and im always thinking about making her comfortable with how much space i give her, if she wants to do something she does it and she knows i dont mind. but then again, her biggest dream was to move or atleast visit england and i havent been wanting to stop her, but it seems like shes anchoring herself here because she wants me much more than to be there. im not sure if thats what you mean or not, but i thank you for the advice, its going to help a bunch with out confidence Edit: Also, when you say that her breaking up with me is the opposite...do you mean that as in its not going to happen or that im going to break up with her?
when people say they dream about relationships i often have a hard time believing this because mine are almost never about anything social or even half the time have other people in them at all. i mean other people in the sense of comming into any sort of communicating contact with them. i'm not saying i can't believe it or won't. just that mine don't work that way. when there ARE people in them, there usually cool and friendly and everything, just not remotely anyone from when i'm awake. i've only had very very few dreams in which anyone was. dreams do consider possibilities, and are not bound in doing so by what the waking mind considers probable. i think there's a randomness element in this. it's like something that's done in solving engineering problems sometimes, to get passed rejecting possibilities, the might be ways of solving things that would not otherwise be considered. so i would indeed take anything a dream has to say about personal relationships with a very large grain of salt. my one caveat about that though, is that sometimes they give insight into subtle nuances of other people's perspectives that we might not conscously notice when awake. these don't make anything have to be or not be, but could be telling us to take things into consideration, for others as well as ourselves, we might not otherwise have been doing. =^^= .../\...
You dreamdt that she dumped you. That probably means that she won't, that she is faithful. The fact that you had the dream may mean that you are scared that one day you will lose her. You speak of England. That may be the fear. The same could be said of her strangulation - that you may be giving her total freedom but you are doing it out, or with, fear. It may be that you fear that you are not good enough for her, that someone will take her away, or that your efforts aren't appreciated. You may see your giving her total freedom as a sacrifice. That is just how love works. First be secure in your own feelings - you'll know it when your dreams change. Then the problem comes when you rationalise that it may be self delusion, that just because you are having peaceful dreams that that means that your relationship is secure. You will have to ask her her dreams to see if they are as peaceful as yours. You're 17 years old. Let life unfold before you, don't try to control it.
