This might not sound like news to any of you but i had lost my virginity when i was 13...I didn't want to but as you hear it " teens just want to feel 'wanted'" And i was in that position. I felt like i couldn't say no either. I have trouble saying no to alot of things..including sex. I'm also very self consious of my appearance. I don't want ANYONE giving me shit on this because not only have i went through this but alot of teens have and still are too. I don't have unprotected sex. But to get to the point, I know alot of guys who want me in bed and alot of them don't understand the concept of NO. Also, there either 16 or 17. They think more with there Dick then there brain. How do I let them know that when i say no, it meens no? I need a guys and girls perspective/ point of view on this. Please.
you should pull out a tazor and shout, " back away, or you is gonna get it good!" lol. seriously though, all you need to do, is remember you worth more than your giving yourself credit for. you beautiful!!! and you could be with anyone, and you don't need anyone's approval besides your own. ~~peace,Danni
you gotta get fierce. you have to be okay with SOMEONE NOT LIKING YOU. because the cost of their "affection" (which is all a lie in the end, anyway) is too high. YOU'RE the one going home with you at the end of the night. YOU'RE the one waking up in your bed in the morning. is it worth it? fuck no. unless you are doing it FOR YOU, tell them to fuck off. don't worry. it's not your job to be loved by everyone. you don't love everyone, do you? if you're honest, you'll say no, except in that treacly "everyone deserves love" manner. NOT YOUR JOB. it's your life, your body. you do with it what you want.
If someone cannot understand no, you need to remove yourself from the situation. Better yet, avoid situations where someone is going to even ask you. It's much easier to understand the word "NO" if you're out of the room. Get it? I strongly suggest that you speak with someone that you trust about your sexual experiences. Do you speak to any adults? I suggest you talk to someone in real life, your doctor especially - because you need to get your PAP smears tests and such and they get asked sex questions and relationship question a hundred times a day. Best of luck.
I had the same problem except with blowjobs. I gave one guy a blowjob and the rest of the neighborhood was knocking on my door. I was about your age when this happened and I actually did it for most. I'd suggest telling them off. You are not an object that can be used...you're a person who has feelings. And exactly what KC said. Who cares if they don't like you afterwards? Don't let that get to you...don't live to please others, think about yourself
Yeah and don't be afraid if they think you're a bitch. Its your body, you have no reason to have sex with people if you don't want to. Say NO sternly and leave. If a guy tries to get physical with you kick him in the nuts and keep saying NO.
to be honest, in my family, being called a bitch was a badge of honor, since it typically meant you were a woman sticking to your guns and telling people to fuck off when you needed to. i got sick of being the "nice, quiet one." fuck that shit. i got sick of people walking all over me and using me for their convenience. usually you only have to be screaming twat once or twice. after that you can chill and just be firm. but a lot of times people don't realize you have a limit, and they'll just keep pushing you until you show them you DO. then they back down. and the funny thing was, after that, i could be really nice, polite, didn't have to get mean and nasty, and i was treated with far more respect.
Whip out a dull hunting knife and threaten to pull a Bobbitt. And to ensure their fear, tell them that you won't just throw it out and then tell the police where it ended up. But seriously, be aggressive. I have a hard time saying no, too, so I understand where you're coming from, but if there's one thing I've learned it's that being aggressive (not physically, necessarily) can really get them to back off. There are people out there who will look for the weakest, most timid and exploit them just so they can get their way. They do this because no fight is put up, and because they know that person will continue to let them do it. So be firm in your stance, and it might sound hard, but exude confidence. They won't expect it, and along with some type of aggression, they won't like it. They'll figure out that they'll have to work for it and that's when most give up. Sorta like a school bully, the moment you stand up for yourself and fight, they run and hide because you're no longer under their control.
From a guys point of view tell him to screw off. Really tell him to just get out of there and trust me if its at a party say it loud, he'll be so embarassed he will probably leave. If not it counts as rape doesn't it?
