Sex with men. I'm not sure if I'm gay or not because I often fantasize about men but never been with one. Does it hurt the first time? I need to find out.
Anal sex is the worst. But I actually don't know many gay guys who actually have anal sex. Just BJs. Nothing really wrong with any of it, but just remember that if you are going to have anal sex, ease it in. You may want to try something small at first, maybe fingers, then go with something slightly larger and gradually work your way to it. Otherwise you could end up with not only a lot of pain, but an injury that will be very difficult to heal. Ever been severely constipated, and had a HUGE turd that you had to strain to push out? It's like that... only backwards. It's a lot more painful putting things IN than it is pushing things OUT. You'll feel like you have to crap. And if you aren't careful, you'll probably also bleed. Since you're a guy, you wouldn't know about this, but I can say that for me, vaginal sex was painless. Especially compared to anal.
Your not gay. you are just ready to explore your sexual needs. My husband ask the same question to me when i first started to fuck him in the ass. He had also fantasized having sex with men and for me there's nothing wrong with that. The first time he said it hurts a bit but you have to start with a small toy and work your way up.
I've taken a strap-on and it shouldn't hurt the first time if you've worked up to it. If it hurts at all, that is your body telling you to stop. Use lots of lube, go slowly, relax, and work up to it. There is no reason why the first time can't be amazing.
yea, like they all tell you. you gotta work up to it. im a girl and anal sex, to me, sucks. but for guys it is different b/c of the p-spot. its supposed to feel good. idk if that will make a difference for you. but yea. use losts of lube and enjoy it. if you dont like it. thats ok. try bj's and other stuff, if you still dont like it, you're not gay. but it doesnt hurt to explore.
