four years ago, i had two best friends.. john and rielle. both of whom i share great memories with. at my grade nine grad i introduced them to each other, and they got a long quite well. the three of us would hang out like everyday after that. so over summer they got to know each other better / became good friends and all that. anyway they started dating around october and my other friends and i noticed an emotional change in rielle. eventually, we found out that john had been physically and mentally abusing rielle for about a year thus john got his ass kicked a few times by our friends. even though the police got involved and rielles mom told her not to see john again, she went back to hang out with him, as did i, because i still considered him my friend. i felt bad for it, but i also knew that he wouldnt hit her if i went with her. one night rielle and i got drunk and she asked me to hit her [i told her id never hit a girl]. but it confused me and i sorta realized johns point of view and thought maybe he had the idea that rielle had some sort of fetish for being hit. anyway, about six months ago, rielle moved to a small town about a 1.5 hour trip up north. sometimes, when she came to visit us, shed go to johns and take me with her. however, around june, john and i sorta drifted apart, and rielle realized that she needed to stop talking to john, because he ruined her life [i dont wanna describe wat she went through]. i recently got a facebook account and started talking to him. rielle found this out and got mad at me for it and said that shed never talk to me again if i continue hangin out with him. the reason was mostly because she didnt want john to find her. so now i havent seen either of them for about two months and ive been feeling somewat lonely. i know i should respect rielle and stop talking to john, but its difficult to simply accept the fact that ill never see him again.
bummer. sucks to lose friends over disagreements. you didn't give many details, but if your friend is asking people to hit her she may be a masochist. there is a difference between non-consensual abuse and consensual S & M play. if she is gonna try to get people involved in S & M play, she needs to realize that there has to be boundaries laid out in advance. both parties should know what they're getting into, and there should be safewords established. the person playing the sadist role should think about getting a signed contract so he has proof that the play was consensual. you might want to help your friends out by doing a little research on that to help them keep themselves safe in the future. there's tons of info on the net about it.
Its wierd man some people are drawn to that sort of thing, and it feeds them. haha that s & m thing was redunk, i like
Wow, that's one crappy situation! I would probably be more symphatetic for Rielle, help her out, and respect her needs, and in meanwhile try to make new friends. peace
