but all the guys i know are sooo shallow!! it drives me crazy. all the guys here want a stick for a gf, and sorry but i have meat on my bones... i love who i am but i can't seem to find a guy who feels the same. suggestions?
Talking to guys on the internet is so stupid. Try finding someone that you can actually meet in person and be with and fall in love. Not someone who you can only talk to through a phone or a computer. It's pointless and lame.
If you want a BF i would suggest you do something in the real world to get a bloke not over the internet. Theres loads of places where you can meet new people x
that a relationship won't happen over the web? I personally know of many that have gone in all directions including marriage and children. One thing I can say I like about using the web is that it makes for a perfect pre-screening device with as much security as you like. Also, the web is pretty common, so connecting with somebody reasonably close by isn't at all impossible but highly probable. Consider that sure there are freaks online just as there are freaks in everyday life. Electronic freaks are largely harmless and the really freaky ones can't usually act straight for too long before showing their true colors. All kinds of conversations online can filter out the freaks without once having to meet in public. Save the public meetings for people you make a real connection with and then do it in a public place. Consider bringing someone else as backup. It only takes common sense to keep from being a victim in any world. Your alternatives can be pretty intimidating as well, bars, clubs, school, public events, dating clubs etc. Another thing: I personally like bigger gals, my wife is very pleasantly chubby (however, she's not a mountain of jiggling cellulite either, she works out), so if you're surrounded by guys who prefer sticks, look somewhere else. In our modern times a thicker woman is a virtual guarantee she's not strung out on meth too. Odd what can be an advantage eh? Use it! Trust me, there's someone out there who finds YOU to be an erotic dream come true. CF
Well, most of the girls at my school are as shallow as the guys (not to mention materialistic). I don't understand it, but hopefully college will be better. Good luck to you.
lol i'm hoping on the college thing also. shallowness and materialisticness [hah i probably just made that word up] are some of the worst qualities someone can have. I don't even know if i'd consider it as a quality because its such a horrid attribute to have. haha thanks! but finding someone here who thinks of me as an erotic dream is like finding a vegan in a deli market. very rare.
You aren't alone feeling like everyone out there is shallow and that you are no one's erotic dream girl, but trust me, there are plenty of people out there who will be perfect for you. It just takes time to meet them. I know it's easier said than done. It can be really tough to stay positive after years of frustration (I don't know if this is the case with you, but it certainly is for many of my friends), but a positive attitude will go so far in helping you to achieve your relationship goals. The more desirable you believe you are (up to a certain point, of course!) the more desirable you will be. You said you love who you are, which is a GREAT start That is THE single most important factor in maximizing relationship success. I see horrible relationships all around me, and 99% of the time, at least one of the partners has serious insecurity/self-loathing issues. Sadly, most people fall into this category. Anyway, you seem like a down to earth girl, and if you continue to think positively and meet people (don't rule out online, despite what some have said), it will happen for you. Also, try not to be too picky about the guys you meet. Obviously you don't want to settle, but the more people you can try to understand by putting yourself in their shoes (eg - let's say you're not really not into smoking, but this guy got hooked as a teen and wants to quit... give him a free pass), the more potential partners you have at your fingertips. The bigger your pool, the better your chances of meeting an amazing partner
My suggestion is online dating. Post a real full body pic of yourself and let the fun begin. It'll work. Lots of good guys in your area that you haven't met.
you cant claim you know all guys so why do ya say ALL of them are shallow? i know several good guys really good not in need for sex only so all you've got to do is be yourself and the person you need will appear
Don't worry, there's a person out there for everyone. Sometimes, there's two. I call that the jackpot lol.
