So I lost my virginitya few days ago, however it was not what I had expected. My girlfried of a few weeks now and I were making out on the couch and we deidedd it was time, and moved to the bedroom. I was in my briefs, her in her panties and we were making out, while gyrating our "parts" together, I became harder than a chinese algebra test and went to put on the condom. By the time I got the damn thing on which wasnt that long (MAYBE 20 secs) I had lost some erection but the condom was on my 70% erected dick. I put that into her and we began to fuck, I am somewhat well endowed so even with 70% it was still somewhat possible, but then I lost my erection completely mid sex during my first time!>!>?? she hoppeed on top and we tried that but it was just striaght out flacid. Anyone know why it shrank so quickly while putting the condom on and why it went down completely after a minute or two (and no i did NOT cum) of the deed?? Happen to anyone else, what can I do to stop this from happening next time? I am 18 years old which is odd as well......
I can't tell you why it happened. But, if it happens again just.... Use more foreplay! Lots of touching, kissing, fingering, licking. Etc ect... All that good stuff. Maybe you had some psychological thing going on in your head like "Aw, fuck. I got a condom on... Boner kill..." But seeing your girl with no clothes on kept you mostly alive. Thats just my guess.
The condom thing is what killed your mind set. If you were in sexual height when you stopped to put it on! This might sound crude, but next time try doing her from behind, that way you can still admire her body as this is what seemed to have kept you aroused.... Don't stress, just enjoy the moment.
It's first time jitters. Putting the rubber on was a signal it was "game time", and the pressure was too much. As you get more comfortable with her in bed, this won't happen.
NEPats - you screw with your brain and not the delivery system between your legs, and when you are spending a lot of time fiddling with a condom, sometimes the stream of nitric oxide flashing from your brain to your penis is broken, and you lose your erection. Next time, have her roll it on for you.
simple performance anxiety. extremely common for young males without experience. previous two threads said it all.......in a years time.........you will be laughing at this episode......in fact, laugh at it now!
I don't think anyone's first time is what they hoped it would be. I know mine wasn't. Don't let any of it make you feel you are "broken" some how. With time, you'll start to get it right. For me, it wasn't until I met my wife. In fact, the only people I've ever heard refer to thier first time as wonderful are those few who wait until marriage. Who knows? There might be something to that outdated idea. Is it possible our great grandparents actually knew something we don't?
