No one knoes the truth, need help

I have never told anyone but the truth is Im gay. I also have a huge crush on someone I know but Im not sure if they are gay or not and Im not sure if he thinks Im gay??? Can you please help?

Thankyou!

 

Since neither one of you can read each others minds its time to start talking to each other. You start slowly, kind of dropping hints that you're OK with Gay people. Get to know him better, try to do stuff together if possible. Take it easy and don't blurt out that you're Gay unless you're ready for the whole world to know. Relax, have fun and enjoy yourself.

 

thankyou, that sounds great. We are very good friends and I dont want to make any moves if hes actualy straight becuse it could ruin our friendship.

 

Communication is the answer, along with respect for each other and an open mind. Good Luck.

 

I'm in the same situation,the only thing different is that I told him I was gay,I understand you very well,spend time with him but don't try to rush things,what is going to happen will happen.Good luck,keep me posted please.

 

ok, great! Im glad you understand me and my problem

 

one more thing if you could go back in time would you still have told him?

 

Absolutely, and because of that I think that we are closer now,I know he is hidding the fact that he likes men also or that he is gay, I asked him if he was he told me he was not but never looked at my eyes,he looked at the floor,that's a clear sign of a person that is not telling the truth.

 

maybe he is; but don't count on it.

i'd move on.

 

Don't give up,Give it a try, keep me informed of what happens.

 

I will

 

I'm not very good at giving advice but... I know how you feel. Two years ago I got a crush on a girl two grades ahead of me. My friends knew that I wasn't exactly straight... it was killing me, having me hide something from them. After dropping hints, asking them what they thought of gay people, etc., I told them about "her" and everything. They were cool with it. If your friend freaks out on you when you tell him, I'd say he isn't a real friend. Friends shouldn't judge each other by their sexualities! Just go slow, test the ground first, so to speak. Good luck.

 

I Agree Recently I Told My Best Friend I Was Bi I Literaly Told Him Things I Was Doing Time And Time Again... Like I Told Him One Of My Friends Had Kissed Me In The Lips (2 Times I Told Him That) Then Since He Knew There Was This Gril At Work I Told Him She Kissed Me But I Did Nothin He Was Shocked The Fact That I Did Nothin A Month Later Since I Told Him About Guys Kissing Me I Told Him That I Was Bi At First He Was At Shock But Then He Was Like I Though So Guys Kissed You And U Did Nothin Then A Girl Kissed You And U Still Did Nothin. Every Since I Told Him He Talks To Me Like Notin Happen So Yea Give Out Hints It Helped Me It Can Help U

 

I had a very similiar situation a few years ago and I rushed things.It turned out to be the wrong move,and our friendship went quickly downhill.I really regret it cause he was such a good friend.Can't cry over spilled milk though but a word to the wise,take it real slow I think dropping hints is the way to go as long as they're suttle enough at the moment.I would'nt shout from the rooftops I'm gay lol.Like was said If he's a good friend you won't be critisized or judged.Hopefully he'll be cool with it one way or another.Best of Luck,.Let us know what happens.

 

more and more I think he his gay and he keeps giving hits and doing things like leaning on me and being really sweet and talking about gay people. its verry hard to explain but I hope you no what I mean. But still he talks about wanting to go out with girls but I thinks hes trying to hide it or cover it up

 

I have been telling a few of my closest frieds and they seem to be taking it fine but "he" dosent know yet that Im gay

 

You're going to have to tell him eventually, you'll have to take the chance.

 

he found out from a friend that I was gay and asked me I said, yes. he seems fine with it but always acts uncomfortable around me, not homofobic but like he has a secret???

 

LOL, maybe hes going thro exactly what you are. ^^

Oh, and in terms of telling your friends and people your gay,

Those that matter dont mind,
And those that mind, dont matter

 

"Uncomfortable" in what way?