Im Not Sure Exactly where this was sourced from as a friend gave it to me but reading this strikes a note with me! Relationships in 21st century. Jealousy is one of the domintae features of humans psychologic misunderstanding of yourself, other people and relationships. People think they know what love is – but they dont. Their misunderstanding of love creates jealousy. People consider love a kind of property, but its impossible to own life. You cant hold it in your fists, if you want to have it, you need to keep your hands open. But everything went wrong during the whole centures, and we absorbed it so deep that we cant seprarate love and jealousy. They became almost one energy. Marriage was created by humans, not by nature, so its unnatural for us. Nature hasnt created such mind which could be in harmony with marriage. But a human decided to have something like contract between lovers, because love itself is like a dream – you cant rely on it; one moment its here and another moment its gone. You want to be safe next moment and in your future. You want your parther to always stay with you. So you have to create a compromise, that leads to worries. Its kind of warrant, to be sure about tomorrow. Jealousy is anger of someone weak, someone who cant do anything and only boils inside, someone who’d like to burn all the world but cant do anything except crying, shouting and being annoyed. This will go on until marriage will disappear. Its opposite to all the values we appreciate – freedom, love, joy. Theres no woman created for you and theres no man created for you. If you were in several relationships you’ll be able to understand, what situations make you suffer, and what situations create peaceful, loving and happy life. The experiance of living with different people is necessary for understanding love. First you should get educated in several relationships. You dont have to hurry to make up your mind, no need – the world is big, and every individual has its unique qualities and beauty. After going through several relationships you’ll start to realise, what kind of man, what kind of woman will be a friend for you – not a master or a slave. Friendship doesnt need marriage because friendship is much higher. Theres an idea in the world, that if a husband goes to some other woman, this situation will ruin his marriage. Thats absolutely wrong. The other way round, if every marriage had free weekends, that would strengthen your marriage much more, because in this case it doesnt take your freedom away, your wife understands the necessity of variety. My understanding is based on thousands experiments – if marriage is not so stable and stiff, if its flexible, just friendship... so that a woman can tell you, “ i met a wonderful young man and is going to spend weekends with him, and if you are interested i can invite him to our place to let you know him and become freinds too”. And if a man can say honestly, without being fake, “its your joy, and your happiness is my happiness. If you met someone, forget about the house, i’ll take care about it. You enjoy, and whenever you might come back home, enjoying youe new life, it’ll bring you something new and fresh. New love will bring new youth. You go this week, and next week i’ll maybe have a program for myself too. This is friendship. And when they come back home, they can talk about what kind of man she met, what it ended in, and that finally it wasnt actualy so great... You can tell about a woman you met... You have a shelter. Sometimes you can go to the sky, wildly and freely, and return, and your man or woman is waiting for you, not for struggle but for sharing your adventures. All you need is a bit understanding. You know for sure, that however amazing a man or a woman might be, sooner or lighter it they start getting on your nerves. Because its the same geography, the same landscape... Humans mind is not created for monotony, and is not created for monogamy. Its absolutely natural to look for variety. And this is not against love. In fact, the more you know the other woman the more you’ll appreciate your own one – your understanding will expand. Your experiance will make you richer... The more men you knew, the better you’ll be able o understand your own one. The idea of jealousy will disappear – you both are free and you dont hide anything. You should share everything with your friends, specially great moments – moments of love, moment of beauty, moments of music... you should share them. This way your life will become richer and richer. You can achieve such harmony with each other that you’ll be together all your life, but there wont be any marriage. Just give each other complete freedom from all your heart. And tell each other – no need to hide anything, because hiding is an offence. It means you dont trust each other. You both should be equally independent. You are together to be happy, to grow into more bliss. And you will do everything for each other but you wont create a prison for each other. To give freedom is a joy, to have freedom is a joy. You can have so much joy but you turn all your energy into unhappiness, jealousy, fighting, eternal efforts to keep your parther under your control. I hope, in you life you’ll be able to throw away this stupid game. The wish of variety is an important wish of a reasonbale person. Idiots dont want to change anything. They are afraid of changes, because changes mean, they’ll have to learn something new. They want to learn anything once and to stay like this during all their life. Be together in happiness... or part. Life is so short... And i had a strange experiance – if one parther starts moving into the right direction, the other one sooner or later starts following. Instead of being together in the search of love, beauty and truth, people waste their time to fighting and jealousy. Just become a bit more aware and start changing yourself – dont wait until the other one starts it. It’ll start from the other side too. And this is so simple – to love, to smile, to share your happiness with someone you love. Love is the only religion, the only god, the only enigma which you need to live and understand. The idea of permanent love is very dangerous, theres nothing permanent in life... Life is an endless stream , everything changes and moves on. Nothing is stable or permanent. You were given the idea of permanent love and this idea will ruin your life. You’ll expect permanent love from each other. But love is such a gentle flower, you cant make it be permanent. You can have artificial flowers, marriage... artificial flowers made of plastic which is stable. But true love is as changable as your life. You cant say what tomorrow will bring. Your life chnages, true love will change too. If you reach the enlightenment, your love will reach another level. Its not permanent and its not changable.. its just here. You become love itself because everything you do if full of love. Whatever you might do your love flows through it. But until you reach the enlightenment your love will be just like anything else – it’ll change. If you understand that it’ll change, and that sometimes your woman can become interested in someone else and you should be understanding, loving and caring and let her go the way that feels right for her... and this is a chance for you to prove that you really love her. You love her even if she’s going to love someone else, its not important. If you get this understanding your love may become long life relationship, but it wont be stable. It’ll raise and fall, it’ll change. Its possible that you’ll have to change many lovers during your life. Theres no harm in it. Changing many lovers you become richer, and if all the world follwed this idea it’d become richer too. But the wrong idea ruined all possibilities. When your parther looks at someone else you go crazy. You dont want them to be interested in anyone but you. But you just dont understand humans psychology. You expect each other to be totally concentrated on each other and it makes you both crazy. Concentration on one person will always make you insane. For easier life, for more playful life you should be more flexible. You should remember that freedom is the greatest value in your life, and if love doesnt give you freedom, then its not love. Freedom is a criteria. Everything that gives you freedom is right, everything that destroys your freedom is wrong. If you’ll remember this little criteria, your life will gradually start going the right way. You should give up old ideas, ugly ideas... Then everything will start to change. The Girl i Love has disapeared for a while and as much as i wonder where she is and care for her i know she needs this time apart and i do to. Cheers Rixsta
seems so easy.. but I think it doesn't really work with everyone and, Riki.. do you really believe those words? Well, ofcourse everyone should have his own pointo of view and I am not trying persuade anyone to mine which is probably not a very 'hippie' one. Anyway I'd like to express it According to those words being innocent and 'unspoiled', waiting for someone special makes no point at all. I believe that love is a gift.. and makin love is a gift.. and you can try to save this gift for soemone who will mean a lot to you.. someone who you'll really care about and I think it may be worth waiting... I don't think it's like owning, it's just a way to express how special this one person is to you.. It shouldn't be like a rule. It's just that if I loved someone in a really pure way than I wouldn't simply want to have sex with anyone else during the weekend.. not because I am someone's 'property' but because he is enough for me, just the way he is.. (maybe I am just too romantic.. lol) Well, anyway I am definetly against owning and agree that you should be in a relationship as long as it makes you feel free and when you start feeling obligated by rules and bans than it makes no sense but it also makes no sense when you both make love with everyone around... well, maybe for some people it does... if it makes you both happy than it's nothing wrong with it but it wouldn't work with me and I believe innocence could be your saved gift for someone who'd be closer to you than anyone else in this world also in a spiritual way.. it's much better when it goes together I think.. but yeah, the truth is we can never be sure of tommorow.. and as a matter of fact I think we wouldn't like to be..
