i suck at closing the deal

my motto was "fake it till you make it." it took a while, but it worked.

i think you're in, but if she's a nice girl, she's not going to be happy with lines and the hard-eyed manuevering hyphy gave you. i can smell bullshit like that a mile away and it shut me down immediately. it's like my uterus clamps shut and send out signals to my vagina to make it grow teeth.

just be normal, goofy, nice you, fitz. it was probably refreshing to have someone obviously interested and not calculating how to get into her pants, but trying nonetheless. go back, be yourself, shyly ask for her number. you'll probably even blush when you do it. i think that's a good thing.

 

Hahahaha!!!! Oh god that mental image isn't going to leave for a while. I almost choked on my water...thank you KC.

 

i was an Alpha male growing up. i lost that because of some traumatic events as a kid - now i'm slowly gaining some of those alpha qualities back. i really wasn't shy growing up. over time it faded, i got out of shape, didn't go out...now its going back the other way, and i'm learning to pick up some qualities i think are great, and throwing some away. taking time

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i'm not beating myself up over her....i don't really know her, so that would be a bit creepy to beat myself up over her. its more me beating myself up over repeating this cycle. i'm trying to change it though

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i do like the ice skating idea spence. much more than the movie. i can be a lot more of myself and goofy ice skating than at the movie haha.

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pubs are great too. i feel real comfortable there. but i figure i shouldn't feel uncomfortable anywhere and its better ot go with the flow.

 

You know, I think if I personally were to take anyones advice on babes from these forums.

It'd be KC. I'm not sure what it is exactly.

 

yea, i try to be my normal self - thats what i did that night. i didn't try anything out of style for myself

i like being goofy and i'm a nice guy

just trying to transition myself right now...

 

just transition to the terrifying step of asking for her number. maybe (and this would be really sweet) you just show up before she's busy specifically to ask for her number. maybe not even hang out to be a customer or anything. that brings into mind a whole "paying for her time" thing that might be uncomfortable. she's likely got a lotta swingin' dicks coming at her. or maybe while you're there, not in front ofyour friends, ask for her number and if she'd like to go out sometime.

 

I think it's cause you've got the mind of a wise old woman in the body of a hot young lady.

If I ever come to beer city, you should introduce me to some of your friends KC.

 

well the transition i was talking about was more of becoming the man i want to be...i was the typical alpha male growing up...then had a total 180 to be this shy guy...working on trying to find a balance there

but that transition into getting the number is something i just have to go for

 

my friends would eat you alive and you'd enjoy every moment of it.

 

:lol: @ this thread.

 

ah, i see. well, you're doing fine. you know what? DAVE DID THE SAME THING. exactly, to a tee. he was always the alpha troublemaker, badass, stuff like that. he turned extremely shy for a while. but later in his twenties it just sorta went away. no joke.

 

Yowza.

 

i can take that...it is funny

life is funny

 

*bows* my pleasure. you can quote me any time.

 

thats good to know

it is going away, i just wish it'd hurry up and get over with already haha

 

dave took public speaking courses to hurry his along.

 

youll be alright fitz, just be yourself like KC said, and just talk to the girl and get a number.

 

i took a public speaking course, had no trouble getting up there in front of the class...actually poked fun at myself on my first speech

it was titled "how to be a ghost on campus"
translation: how to be a shit bag at military school

haha

 

my speech was a riot. i dumped all my medications on the table and said "don't go to the doctor, they just make you sick." i had them rolling AND i got some digs in on the prescription society.

 

i know how you feel buddy, usually the girl needs to close the deal for me