Relationship Age Difference?

Discussion in 'Men's Issues' started by Twizz, Aug 29, 2007.

  1. Twizz

    Twizz Drug Conoisseur

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    I know a girl who I really like and she really likes me but I just feel like taking the relationship any farther is kind of wierd because of the age difference, and I just mainly want to know what other people think...

    I'm turning 19 in November and she just turned 16 a couple days ago...
     
  2. LostLass

    LostLass Member

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    IMO, there's a reason that most states put the age of legal consent at 17. While three years may not seem like such a huge difference, from a maturational standpoint it is. From a legal standpoint it is as well. Statutory rape is still rape in the eyes of the law, a good many parents, and most child protective service agencies.
     
  3. Twizz

    Twizz Drug Conoisseur

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    We've been friends for a long time, so I don't think it's as you might think
     
  4. Twizz

    Twizz Drug Conoisseur

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    more opinions, either way...
     
  5. mushie18

    mushie18 Intergalactic

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    It's hard to say during the teenage years.

    It all depends on the situation. If ya'll have known each other for a while, you know her parents, and everyone seems to be okay with it then I would go for it.

    Personally, I wouldn't have done it, but every situation is different.
     
  6. Detox

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    i Pretty Much Agree With Mushie Here. If nobody finds it creeepy, your pretty much in the clear.

    whats the worst that could happen?

    oh yeah. jail.

    Nah. you'll be fine.

    dont get bass taped though.
     
  7. Freekowtski

    Freekowtski Member

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    well... i have a 26 yr-old friend who's living with a 40 yr-old woman, and he's so happy.

    i don't know about the legal situation of teenagers in usa, so i think it's ok.
     
  8. verseau_miracle

    verseau_miracle Banned

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    These questions are always coming from teenagers...over-cautious older folk have frightened the life out of them, i think.

    The age of consent here in the UK is 16. A 16 and a 19 year old is no problem whatsoever. Especially when the 19 year old is male, if you both feel emotionally ready of course. Boys mature later physically and often emotionally too, in terms of relationships. Youre both young, just be safe and have fun!! Jeez, people need to lighten up. If she was 14 or 13 i could understand, but here in the UK at 16 itd be legal for you to have sex and potentially create life together...i know canada has it at 14 but thats too young imo
     
  9. StayLoose1011

    StayLoose1011 Senior Member

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    I think it all depends on the girl. You seem pretty mature, because you're concerned about it. If you feel like you would be taking advantage of her in any way and if you feel significantly more aware, like you have the upper hand in relationship in every way, then maybe it's not a good idea. If she's smart, mature, and ready, then it's probably not a problem. The age difference could be a lot worse than three years, and although certainly there can be a huge difference in 16 and 19, it's not always the case.
     
  10. nolifer

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    i'm currently 17 and i'd rather date girls that are 16 to 18 but i wouldn't mind having as old as 20 or a bit older
     
  11. Daedalus

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    I don't think there is anything wrong with that age difference, its only three years. Thats nothing. Then again when I was 17 I was sleeping with a 29 year old woman. She was 12 years older than me and i was only 6 years older than her daughter. Can someone say [​IMG]
     
  12. alan425

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    Age means nothing - I am 47 and I my partner is 22 years youngers that me, she is 25 and we have a very healthy sex life. Her mum who is 52 is seeing a guy who is 46 so age is only a number.
     
  13. sarahrei

    sarahrei ~Lover~

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    Age is only a number, however I find when your a teenager it complicates things a bit more, I was dating my ex when I was 14 and he was 18, he just wanted more from me then I was mentally and emotionally ready to give. I'd wait if I were you.
     
  14. Xac

    Xac Visitor

    There are some issues, i'd say if you only wanted to fuck her it would be a bad idea but if you are interested in a real relationship based on respect and trust from a personal stand point i don't see the problem, also if it is a relationship you're interested in you should be able to wait for the sex part. i dont think kissing and holding hands would be illegal.
     
  15. David54

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    The fact that you're thinking about it is a good indicator that it's OK. I know it could be pretty awkward, but have you considered talking to her parents about it? Do they know you well?
     
  16. soaringeagle

    soaringeagle Senior Member

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    i'm involved with someone much younger myself, & yea alotta what was said above isall important, havin a real respectful relationship not just based on sex, making absolutely sure the folks are ok with it..being willing to wait for a sexual relationship tillshes completely ready, and not put any pressure on her towards going beyond her limmits..having been freinds 1st also is very good so therelationships already built on a firm foundation..
     
  17. A Wise Monkey

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    I'm in agreement with Soaring Eagle. For me I have dated as young as 20-21 and as old as early 40's. I was married to a lady 10 years my junior for about 4 years. She was only 19 when we met. I think if you share common dreams, loves, interests, etc. but most importantly share love and respect for one another age can be irrelevant. (provided you mind the age of consent laws)



    Love and light, my friends.

    Monk
     
  18. Twizz

    Twizz Drug Conoisseur

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    I'm dating the same girl now, and we love each other so fucking much it's unbe-fucking-lievable.

    I wouldn't give her up for the world. And age I guess IS only a number. I'm not very mature for my age (emotionally) and we have both been through our share of bad experiences with relationships.

    She also lives on her own now, since her mom kicked her out and her dad wasn't able to provide her with the love and care she needed. I don't think that she would be able to cope with whats going on so early in her life without someone standing by her side... and I'm glad to be the one who can stand beside her!

    ALSO we're both pretty depressed people. Even though 2 depressed people together might sound like a bad idea, I can honestly say that anything that comes from her mouth means much more to me than if it came from anyone elses.

    she's beautiful too :p
     

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