hello everyone, ive only recently started reading these forums (thanks for the link pat_mycat) and after doing so hav come to the conclusion that i am a boring person. i dont do anything, and i rarely go out. i dont know how i got this way, because it hasnt always been like this. i feel asthough i have no real friends, after finishing school i started working full time, and i guess i drifted away from all friends my from high school. i find it very hard to make new friends, because im a shy guy, and ive never really had to do it before. ive always had mates from footy, or school to hang out with but not anymore. over the past 2 years ive felt like a loser and i dont like this feeling. i would rather hav no money and no place to sleep if i could have one true friend.
I guess the only thing is to get your confidence up, and force yourself meet people Remember no one will want to approach you if youre not willing to put yourself out there
just be yourself, its all you can be. and if people dont like you for you are, then they arent real friends in the first place. much love <3
Meh, friends are overrated... Just because you don't have "friends" doesn't mean you are a boring person. And you shouldn't feel like a loser.. See me, I prefer solitude, I love being alone and spending time with myself.. I love taking walks alone, going out alone... I find that I am in tune with myself and I don't need to have people constantely around me to be happy in life.. Yeah, it's nice to have people in your life, but it doesn't make you any less of a person if you don't...
this happens to a lot of people, so you're really not the lone ranger. the solution to the problem is probably to spend some time pursuing interests in ways that bring you into contact with other people who have similar interests.
Two words STOP CHANGE "I dont do anything" "I rarely go out" Look man times can be hard. All i can say is learn from the past and attack the future. Go out and make new friends, keep tryin. Force yourself. I had one day where i was hurting inside. I had no one to talk to. I sat on the street almost in tears. These two homeless guys walk up and one asked. Whats wrong brother? Before i know it we are walkin through the city and i was getting a philosophical lecture. It made me think differently about everything. I wont forget his name or the words he said. Shit he even asked for my number to call me from a pay phone. To check on me. (people who judge the homeless need to get there shit toughter) If something is hard and you dont know how to deal with it. Thats ok it happens to everyone daily. At times somethings are worse. Just keep your head up. If you force yourslef to try and do what you want. I truely believe the change will happen. Sometimes you dont get the results for a week, maybe a month. Shit sometimes its a year. Still the good comes, when it happens you will be thankfull you tried. A week of pain and sadness is worth a month of joy. Know what i mean? Its life and its how it is. =/ Stay strong.
I used to be anti social. Depended solely on chat rooms for social interaction. But then I got a job as a cashier in a grocery store and it required a lot of social skills. At first it sucked because I didn't know how to talk to people, but after awhile, I learned. And I made friends too. School gave you a social outlet, just replace it with another. Do you work? That's always a good place to start. Just put yourself out there and things will get better.
