I'm trying to figure out my sexual orientation, but it's sort of hard since I don't have any sexual experience. I have sexual fantasies about both girls and guys, though sometimes I wonder if my fantasies about guys are 'real', or if I just have them because I know I'm 'supposed' to be attracted to guys. I feel more romantically attracted to guys, e.g. when I'm on a date with a guy or just sitting close to a guy I like, there's that electricity and wonderful awkwardness between us, and when I sit close to a girl, this never happens... But all my life my friends have been girls, so maybe I'm just used to thinking of girls as just friends. I think I would rather have a relationship with a guy, and I defiinitely want to get married (to a man) and have kids in the future, but I'm wondering if society is influencing this feeling...Am I just too scared to think of having a romantic relationship with a girl that I convince myself I don't want it? I think maybe I WOULD like it, and I guess if I think about it hard enough, there IS one of my (female) friends who I enjoy being close to, and I think she feels the same way about me...but we're both too scared of this idea to think about it seriously. So, from people who KNOW they're lesbians, what do you think? I guess it's likely that I'm bi, but I'm still totally confused...I feel like all three options (gay, bi, straight) are still possible......which is weird... Also, to what degree does actually having sex clear up this question??
you sound either straight or mabye bisexual. i dont think you are gay. either way, don't worry yourself about things. as for sex clearing this up, i dont know myself. i am a virgin. but i know im a lesbian because i have loved and had crushes on women not because i've slept with them.
Ok I thought of a better way to say all this: I am sexually attracted to both guys and girls, but I am not romantically attracted to girls. I would feel weird having any sort of romantic committment with a girl, maybe because I'm so used to girls being just friends. Is that weird?
no, that doesn't sound weird. you sound bisexual. not all bisexuals want to be in relationships with other women, just feel sexually attracted to them.
My house sister is straight, but on the odd occasion "hooks up" with girls for fun. I don't get this myself, but she says she feels no attraction. Do you get the tingly feeling with girls, or have you ever?
