Can't get it up at that right moment...

So I'm not impotent to get the ball rolling here. In privacy, all it takes is a thought or glance of porn and I'm fired up. The only other situation that it takes no problem is when I see my ex girlfriend and it's just naturally from being comfortable with her in many ways. But we don't see eachother anymore and I'm out seeing other people (not sleeping around, just looking for a steady, exculsive girl) but I constantly end up embarassing myself.


I can count literally to the end of my second hand the amount of girls I have been in bed with just off the top of my head with whom the time comes and I'm just no where near hard. It naturally makes the girl not want to see me any more... Again I'm not sleeping around because if I could find ONE girl to solve this problem, she would be the only one I would want to see.

To make it clear it's not guilt because I'm not cheating nor do I really miss my ex. It seems like when I'm alone I get extremely horny, but when I'm with a girl I just can't get it up!! To top it off there was one girl who I had been in a relationship with for over a month and not once did we have full on sex because of this issue. She was beautiful and fun and accepted the problem as just needing time...

Plain and simple, it's embarassing and really brings down my self esteem.

My only thoughts:

Too much porn = desensitized to a nude female (and one girl I failed with was gorgeous)

Too much masturbation = Performance loss when the time comes

Too little excersize?

Diet?

Any help would be great because I seriously feel pathetic...

thank you.

 

It's none of those things because you can get hard when you're by yourself. It's all in your mind. You are worried about something -- you just have to really think about what it is.

 

I think I'm going to just completely stop masturbating haha and see how that works out.

Thank you

 

Just hope it works and you don't prematurely ejaculate.

 

Dammit. I didn't think about that..

I liked these responses to another post however:

I use to have a bang buddy a couple years back, she was really dirty and would go down on me like there was no tomorrow. I actually caught myself thinking about her as I was about to get busy with a different girl and that thought actually got me up. I think it was because she let me fuck her like she WAS a $2 whore and we never cared about each other so there was no worry of not being good, then as a result, it was incredible. Which leads to:

Great forum, glad I found it!