afraid of sex

hi there

I'm still virgin, I really love girls, but I really get nervous and shake alot when girls try to get closer. I always masturbate and dream of girls. I get erection easily with even imagining girls. Masturbation is really making me sick and weak. I really don't know how to deal with this problem. Any ideas?

 

have confidence in yourself

 

thanks "broony" for your kind replay.

I'll do my best.

 

Stranger - join a social club where you can meet girls and share your common interests. Once you get to know some females, find one you feel comfortable with and ask her out. Don't come on too strong with her - but let her know that you like her. All it takes is one loving female to cure you of your nervousness and shakes.

 

i know all about your feeling nervous.
i went to sea as a cadet officer at 16, and had no real emoptional contact with girls for years.
but......
one single episode with a prostitute when 'taken in hand' by my older shipmates, was all it took to completely change my nervousness into a powerful and enduring...lust!
go try it......what do you have to lose? and i will; share this with you.....when i told that first girl, the prostitute, that i was a virgin. she was sooo good to me.....i used that device with other girls for some time after that! oh dearie me....memories.

 

Thsnks "Cutted" for your kind replay.

I know so many girls. they really love me many of them tried to show interest but I ignored them becouse was too feel really really nervous and my heart beats like it's gonna stop. Gosh I cann't imagine how bad would my first date be.

 

hahaha
I always say to my self "I will go yes I will talk with her" but when the time comes do no thing just try to escape.

thanks very much

 

First time it is usually disappointing…
If in your country prostitution is legal I would arrange a session. Just to find out how it goes and to get some professional advice…

 

I live in uk but you cannot trust a prostitute. Don't forget there are so many sexual transmitted diseases. I hate my life.

 

this is avoidant behavior. do you avoid people in general, or just women you're interested in?

 

I think I just avoid some girls, who I think they are really beautiful.

Thanks

 

The only thing I might add to this discussion is: disabuse yourself of the notion that being nervous is a problem. We get nervous because we care about things. We feel nervous because we are excited with future possibilities.


Allow yourself to feel nervous as you allow yourself to dream when going to sleep. Don't hang on to the feeling nor try to get rid of it.

Pressure is your friend.

 

Why avoid them? Why seek them?

 

all what you said is absolutely right. I really care about them. I will do my best to not care that much.

Thanks mate this post is really helpful

 

I feel really nervous and my heart beats like I was gonna off.
you know some girls started to think I was gay. one did ask this question

 

I'm glad you got something out of my post. But is your response above not the opposite of what I suggested?

I say: go ahead and get nervous! go ahead and appear gay or foolish! go ahead and let that passionate heart of yours beat unabated! Go ahead and lose control of the situation!

We've all been there, and we all still feel that way whenever we meet a 10 for the first time. I don't care how experienced you are.

Beautiful women are a PLUNGE!

 

stranger4:

He's right, man. It's not about NOT caring too much, it's about being BRAVE and going ahead no matter how nervous you are about appearing foolish or gay or whatever. Courage is not the absence of fear.

Also the more you try to not care, the more you care! You become attached to the idea of not caring. In other words, you care about not caring about them - which only adds to your mental agitation.

 

Good stuff, Musikero. I'd venture to say that "caring about not caring" = C-A-R-I-N-G.

 

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thanks sir you are really good man I appreciate your help.
I will do my best.