when you think your FWB/FB is falling for you...

Hey, I'm new to the forum and I think this topic might have come up already... sorry if there is another thread.

My question is this: I've had this FWB/FB for YEARs. I've always been secretly in love with him but I have NEVER told him, never pressured him for ANYTHING. We have a GREAT time together and have always had an amazing sexual connection.
He lives in another city - across the country so we don't see each other very often, in fact went years without seeing each other until last year when we reconnected. Still we only see each other a few times a year..but keep in touch through emails and texts.. but The last few times I've seen him he's taken me out to dinner... holds hands with me.. kisses me in public.. and when I saw him this last weekend he kissed me... a lot ..like long slow deep old fashioned french kisses (of course i loved it) . When I'd try to end the kiss, he'd hold on for more.
what's up with this? could it be he's grown a heart!? haha!

 

c'mon anyone??
! I was about to give up on this guy and thought he's never gonna have the kind of feellings for me that I have for him but then he acts like he does!?
Guys: what do you think? I think guys don't passionately kiss their fuck buddies. what do you think?

help! thanks!

 

Oh well. I hoped you dudes could help me out and give me an idea of where this guy is coming from (no pun intended) with the 'date/boyfriend/lover" behavior...... I will just talk to him.

Any advice is greatly appreciated tho!

 

well it sounds like he's not using you or anything. So that's nice. Guys won't say anything. You should just talk to him.

 

Is he kissing you because he has feelings for you or just because it's part of foreplay? That's what you need to determine. Could be just a sexual thing.

 

yeah... the kissing was way before the sex.. we were just hanging out...in fact it sort of surprised me then... I've been with guys where it IS just about the SEX and there is no kissing...

I appreciate your advice!

 

I've kissed girls I wasn't in love with. He likes you, or at least your body

 

Ok here's an update. Since last weekend when I saw my "friend". he's sent me emails and texts saying I was A "DISH".. saying how sexy he thinks I am, and how our night together was "fantastic."... If he's just a FWB shouldn't he just drop it until next time? .

 

Hey GracieLou,
Have you been involved with this guy for 20 years or just "known' him for 20 years.. If I'm reading this right it looks like you 've just known him for a long time and had a one night stand here and there.... and now you're on to a situation where you actually PLAN to see each other and its more date- like.?
am I wrong?

Anyway, it sounds like you are both older. and he might actually like you and have feelings for you - as an adult - now. you don't say how old you are but if you've known him for 20 years you have to be, what.. 30's? 40's? so your not kids anymore...

Sounds to me like you both have feelings for each other... and because of the distance etc. neither one of you is doing anything about it... who knows. he could want more and be afraid to mention it to YOU ? maybe that's what all the messages are about.. i mean if he lives far away he doesn't HAVE to do anything? right? why bother?

just my two cents..

 

I read the situation as, his life has changed so he wants a deeper relationship with you. The question is, have you changed, or are you willing to change, to deepen the involvement? Keep in mind. given the situation you described, that if you two get serious, one or both of you is going to have do some serious rearrangement of your lives if you are going to be together.
Having said that, this oft-burned romantic says, go for it.
And the tiny weasel of envy in my mind squeaks, That lucky bastard!