Ok... This girl friended me on myspace. At first I thought she was one of those porn spam friends that you get every 5 minutes on myspace, but she actually turned out to be real. So I flirted with her online until I was able to get her to call me (This was about august this year). We talked for a while (I think that talking to her to much kind of lowered the attraction she had for me) and around October she said she wanted a realationship. The thing that had me going was that I have never met this girl, yet I had feelings for her, so I was like, alright, I'm willing to have a relationship with you. After that she was like "I'm your bitch" or "I'm your girlfriend" a lot. So I thought, alright, that's cool. But I was concerned because I haven't met her yet. So come thanksgiving I finally had a real opportunity to meet her and I thought that was going to happen. The reason I haven't met her is because its basically a long distance relationship. Though she's from my hometown, I go to college in NY. However come thanksgiving weekend she was with family and outside of my hometown. So I pretty much pulled the needy wussbag guy card and tried my damndest to get a hold of her since I really wanted to meet her. When I finally did that's when I found out that she wasn't in town. So I asked her if she liked me and she said "Yes, I really do like you." Then I asked if we were ever going to meet, she said "Yes. Of course we are, I just don't know when. I know this sounds like bullshit, but I just don't have the time." and then I said if she seriously wanted to meet me, she'd make the time, and she said that was true. I then asked her if what she wanted out of this relationship and she said "I don't know. I don't know if I'm ready for a relationship." After that she said she had to go and would call me back. It's been about a week and a half then and she never called back, nor can I get a hold of her. There's only 2 broad possibilities that I can think of in this case. 1. Its over and she's not acknowledging me now. 2. She's actually in the hospital because she had some health issues recently. I would like to believe 2 because I like her and she's not answering her cell phone for anyone. Because I called on friends phones to make sure that it wasn't just i that was getting blocked. And as well considering she admitted to liking me and wanting a relationship first. However, I believe more of number 1 since it is long distance and we've never met in person. As well as if she really wanted to meet me, she'd make the time, and though she's talked of it, she's never really gone through with it. So any insight on this would be helpful. Please, be as brutally honest on what you think. Thanks.
she kinda sounds like a tease to me, from how your describing her. The part were she said she honestly doesnt have time to meet you just seems like maybe she doesnt like you as much as you like her
It sounds like a really stupid idea to try to start a relationship without ever meeting someone... y would anyone really be interested in that ? what kind of a relationship would it be if all you did was talk on the internet or the phone?? Y dont you find a real woman like at college or something?
you can talk on the phone and you can do the internet thing and fall for someone. They can send you pics-- you them vise-versa. Time is about the only thing that is the key here. There can be a "Thing" between you. but if someone does not follow through with wanting to meet you,,,then you can pretty much say to heck with it. I know I should take my own advice but the one I was with,,,we talked about everything. He even told my son that we would all be together as a family and my boy is wondering what has happened to him too. So, let it go for awhile and if she shows up fine, if not, well. then there are other people in this world who will love you for you and want to be with you.Just becareful the next time on the net. Like me...smilin`
Online dating is so stupid. No offense to anyone but i just think its dumb, unless you go on those dating sites that are approved then thats ok but just some random guy off myspace or something is stupid.
Hm... Last time I checked NY was a really big city.... Do you really want to tell me you can't find someone there?! Like... Internet dating is fine when you are 15, but at your age I really don't see the point of it. This girl wanting to be with you, but refusing to meet you... Sounds very immature if you ask me. I wouldn't want to be in a "relationship" like that. But if she has cell phone turned off, send her a text message (make sure you have delivery report on), and you recive report as soon as she turns that damn thing on. Or if she has it on, but is just not anwsering.... As I said, I think there is a lot of people living in NY....
I met one of my exes over the internet, he lived in the UK while i'm dutch. We atlked for 2 or 3 months online and on the phone a lot and then we met and had a 2 year relationship, which ended really nasty, but thats besides the point; we met and it worked. So theres nothing wrong with internet dating aslong as you do meet. I'd say try and contact her when you can and ask her what she really thinks about this. It doesn't seem like she really wants it.
