I don't want to

Well, last year was my first year of college. I developed a huge crush on some kid from my floor. he had me convinced that he was gay (it was more like i convinced myself that he was...) and it was a rough semester for me to have such a huge crush on him.

Im over it now, but this year, I am in the same situation. I know this kid really likes me (as a friend) but i like him as more than friends. im sure its not gonna happen because all the things that make me think he could be gay.... im pretty sure is all just in my head.

how the fuck do i stop liking him!?!?? the only option i see is to not hang out, but i mean, hes really cool and I still want to be friends. errrr its making me nuts

 

Have you ever told him that you like him? Does he know you're gay?

 

No not yet. Im actually going to be rooming with him next semester, so I don't want to make things akward for him.

I was planning on moving to this other part of campus, and he suggested to come with, so it wasn't me making it harder for myself...

 

i guess going on a limb and telling him would be the thing to do, you could get your feelings out in the open(or atleast with him) and it should help you get over him if he says no or get together with him if he likes you.

and you never know, he could secretly have a crush on you but be in the same situation as you.

and if he's a cool guy, he'll stay ur friend if ur gay

 

I fell in love with one of my closest friends late last year, and couldn't stop thinking about him for about six months. I had kept convincing myself that he was gay, even after I first came out to him and he didn't respond by confirming that he was as well, and even after I told him I had feelings for him, and he said that he was flattered but not gay, I still couldn't get over him for another month or so. The long and short of it: the only way that you'll be able to get over him eventually is to tell him that you like him. I don't think living with him is a good idea either way.

You're going to tear yourself apart pining after him if you don't establish his sexuality and likewise how he feels about you.

 

I would be honest. If he's a rational human being, he won't want to not be your roomie or your friend just because you're gay. Hell, I'd be more upset to find out later, after moving in with someone, than to just be told up front. I'd be offended that someone would think I would judge them for that. But then again I am an openly gay person myself, live with my lover, and a gay male roomie.