I met this girl on Myspace about a month ago(November 17th). Well, she found me to be exact. Anyway, We've been talking almost non-stop for awhile now and she has a really big crush on me. I really do like her, and we have a lot in common, but she is only 15, turning 16 in March, while I just turned 18 on December 5th. What I guess im really here for is for some suggestions as to whether I should go out with her or not, despite the age difference. I really do like her and I've been on what I guess you can call cloud 9 since our date, so yeah.... I know this probably is incoherent, seeing as im writing at nearly 3 A.M out of sheer nerve, so here are some of the pro's and con's I see in this: Pro's: I've met her parents, and they like me We've already gone on a date We have A LOT in common We both believe in no sex until marriage And the rest here are branches off of what has already been said Con's: Im a legal adult, she is a legal minor. We've only known eachother a month Going into a relationship may damage our friendship if things go awry I appreciate any and all help and advice that can be given to me, as I desperately need it to ease my mind and gauge my next move. To those of you who are going to accuse me of pedophilia(If any, This forum doesn't seem as harsh as Gamefaqs.com), I met her while I was 17 and I honestly have no bad intentions. Once more, thanks again. My apologies for the sloppy writing style.
If her parents don't mind, I say go for it. There's no problem. 3 years ain't that big a difference. When I was 16, I dated a 25 year old....now that's wrong.
her parents are good, and you dont plan on fucking for a good long time (so no statutory)... if she wants to date, id say go for it. youre only about 2 years apart. much further and id be worried, but 2 years aint so bad (when i was 16 i dated a 32 yo alcoholic online, that was fucking stupid)
Thanks you two, I really appreciate it. More advice is still welcome though. I am going to go ahead and ask her our soon most likely, or take her up on her offer, but I wouldn't mind hearing some words of wisdom on what I can do to try to make this work. Once more, thanks again.
The only issue here would've been statuatory rape (and even then I'd say go for it 'cause the age difference is very small and it's consentual), but if that's not even an issue, then freaking BE with her already! That's what I say...
I should also note that the age of consent in Indiana is 16, and not 18, so even if by some mistake we did break our vows, if she is 16 and it is consentual, then there still would be nothing to worry about I wouldn't think. But are you sure praxis? You don't think its too soon?
What's too soon? The relationship or sex? I don't think it's ever too soon to have a mutually beneficial relationship. And I think sex is only too soon if you guys haven't agreed on what sex will bring to each of you and haven't taken the necessary precautions.
I met my husband 3 months after I turned 16, and a week before his 18th birthday. We started dating after a week, and were engaged after 5 months. (we had a 3-year engagement) I don't think it's too soon at ALL so long as y'all are prepared to take things slowly. But... people MAY think you're just out for sex. And that can be humiliating. My husband put up with a TON of that up until the day we were married. I don't want to scare you, just kind of forewarn ya. (((((((((hugs!!!))))))))) Good luck!!! love, mom
Cool post. A good question to ask those people would have been: If someone is just out for sex, why try it with someone whose age makes it MORE difficut to have sex?
Also a cool post And thanks a lot Homeschool, That was very insightful and I honestly feel better after reading it.
