Not really under "womens issues" but it sort of is. Why is it because I've posted in the Love & sex Fourms guys think that means they can try and pick me up? is there a hiden message in there or something? Its the same as wearing a skirt, I like short skirts and being the start of summer I'm wearing them a lot at the moment but for some reason that means "hit on me". It's really starting to piss me off, I even get hit on when I'm with my bf and its guys from 13 to 25 which freaks me out. I just wanna start kicking balls lol
i may be wrong here, but i think men have this idea that all women are begging for male attention. maybe its our culture of promiscuity, sexuality and female insecurity. so many young girls nowadays are desperately trying to be thin and sexy, while feeling that they aren't good enough to deserve love unless they meet all these ludicris standards of beauty. if any guy shows them attention, they feel validated. add to that the acceptance, even promotion, of casual sex to younger and younger people, and you have a recipe for disaster. men have all of these beautiful, insecure, sexually willing young girls to choose from. they aren't stupid, they know they have the upper hand in today's female-critical, sexualized culture. the problem comes when they assume all women are like that, and think they can do as they please to achieve their own sexual gratification.
I don't post in L&S anymore because of that very fact. I was being flooded with what I felt were inappropriate propositions via personal messages. I'm a very happily married woman who simply enjoyed talking about her intimate life with her one and only, and getting some new ideas in the process, but unfortunately, I had men sending me messages about wanting to web-cam, meet up, things like that. It really bothered me, so I decided from there on out, I wouldn't be posting on the L&S forums. I'm actually upset that I ever did post there at this point, but meh, you live and learn. I guess they figure a woman who is married and talks about sex must need some side action or something, she can't possibly be happy or satisifed with just her husband. *rolls eyes*
I know what you mean on that one! One time, one guy even sent me a message on AIM. He kept asking me to get on cam - I told him I don't even OWN a webcam and I don't cyber or anything, thank-you-very-much, I'm married. After I said I didn't even own a webcam, he goes "I think you're lying"... I told him "I think you need to fuck off" and blocked him. Doesn't anybody ever think that maybe we post on there because there are a lot of younger people asking questions that we've all had at some point, and we're well-educated on the subject so we go ahead and answer? Oh no, being a woman who's well-educated about sex must make us sluts or something.
there are so many people who go to L&S to solicit sex/cybersex/camming that its ridiculous. not at all the purpose of the site. now you cant even discuss things in a civliized manner there, its all youre-gay insults and getting pmed for admiting that *gasp* you have and like sex with your permanent, monogamous partner
I had a friend who used to work the internet circuit. Myspace, ratemybody, nexus, all those things. It was a numbers game; he'd meet up with maybe one out of 30 that he pmed, and he'd sleep with maybe half of those. Dunno.
You get random losers hitting on you just for being female, and the number increases if you're attractive or mention anything about sex. Kinda blows but that's how it is, and as mentioned above more than once it's women who encourage it. Also you probably have this figured out already but it should be said over and over and over: DO NOT post your picture. Unless you're really, really ugly or wearing a helmet and snowsuit.
