why is it so hard to live just for fun and happiness nowadays?

Are bumble bees very happy? hehehe

 

sure, they are always happy

 

I actually had a discussion with a girl in class the other day on a topic similar to this, which led to this.

She was upset because she's had so many friends die in the last year and another friend who tried to commit suicide.

Life is so fragile and people take advantage of that. People feel it's ok to speed down a highway (one of the most dangerous in the country) and text someone. Next thing you know, she's wrapped around a tree.

The point I got at to this girl was to live her life knowing how fragile it is seeing what happens to people.

Happiness is not a part of life anymore. It upsets me.

 

DAMMIT!

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Therein lies the problem with planting trees on highways. How many people are going to hurt themselves before the government wakes up ????




I don't even know what this thread is about. Since when is it hard to live for fun and happiness?

It isn't folks. Of course there is responsibility, of course there are bills to pay, of course work sucks,.

But what does any of that have to do with fun and happiness?

I'd wager a guess that says that because we are reading this thread on the internet, we will tend to have replies from people that are generally introverted, and intelligent.

Introversion and intelligence lead to different means to happiness than extroversion and stupidity. Would we really be asking these questions and making these statements if we (introverted intelligents) were out at a bar, wrecked, with our best friends??? I dont' think so!

 

i've had these conversations with friends, wrecked at a bar or party where we get absolutely obliterated.

 

well if just this moment matters than all of us should be probably be shooting speedballs this very moment . Most of the times , life is more than just the moment

 

For the most part life is working and resting. On the other hand, if you have no family to look after, the right job, and heaps of holidays, you can go on trips every now and then... or spend your money on something really big or nice like a house or a car or drugs or something like that. I avoid the latter because it seems to keep on costing money leaving you bogged down when you could be off somewhere getting away from it all.

I'm thinking Egypt this year . But until that day, I'm working, waiting around, sacrificing as much as I have to, barely living, and hoping I don't get killed or something before I can do it.

 

Rich people are not ALWAYS happy~just look at Howard Hughes, Donald Trump and even Micheal Jackson was rich once-upon-a-time and I still don't think he knows what happiness is.
I used to tell an ex "the more money you have, the dumber you get".

 

It is impossible to appreciate fun and happiness without experiencing grief and sadness.

Like another poster said... a balance is what one should strive for.

 

i think that if any of you knew me in person you would find that i am a kid at heart, always living laughing loving and dying =p

really though i think i have more fun than most people. i dont take myself too seriously. i think that enjoying ones self should be a priority. i hate how people allow themselves to get soo stressed out by things that will be rendundant in 5 years time. why not enjoy yourself in the present?

 

Life is very fragile, and you must be aware of this (or you are not paying attention. But, you can't live your life around "im gonna die!!!!!". There is a chance involved with everything... even locking yourself in a bomb shelter .
An infinite nothing? Heaven/hell? Reincarnation? The question is unanswered, living in fear of something that cannot be validated until you die is living your entire life in fear... and is the very reason the world is as it is today - fear of death.

Happiness is simply satisfaction. If you are never satisfied, you will never be happy. Setting a goal doesn't mean miserable until achieved, you can be just as happy en route.

I have no understanding of sorrow in death... the only possible sorrow is that the person is in hell, and you feel sorry for them, but thats not what people feel. As a matter of fact, most folks feel better if someone they didn't like is "in hell". Everyone will die sooner or later... and its not to your "schedule". Once again, this is the reason the world is as it is... all thats required to change the world is for the world to change its mind.

I'm happy to post this

 

If anything, people are too hedonistic nowadays and I think that leads people off to nowhere. People usually end up feeling empty when all they do is look for pleasure. Life should be pleasurable, but when pleasure gets put on a pedestal, then you put more important things aside, and this isn't good.

About 50% of Americans cheat on their partner. And what's worse is that these people don't see it as a big deal; It's disgusting. When hedonism takes over important values, that is when hedonistic approaches becomes detrimental.

 

That figure doesn't take into account that most folks assume their partner to be cheating anyway. Its "accepted" and "forgivable".

Remember what the bible says - you can do anything, you will be forgiven if you are truly sorry.

Its a sickening mentality that has caused the downfall of the entire world, to say the least.

 

now thats a bit overkill.

havent you ever been the one to be forgiven?

 

It eliminates responsibility now, in lieu of forgiveness tomorrow.

I am responsible for what I do - I don't seek forgiveness - I seek to never require it.

 

You're right, it shouldn't be accepted, but it should be forgivable; Everything ultimately should. Forgiveness is important. But like you said, people feel like they are immune to bad things because they will be forgiven.

And that message from the bible is misunderstood, and this misunderstanding is leading to that bad mentality. It isn't saying that you can do anything and get away with it. It is saying that if you do happen to do something bad, an try to make things right again, then you are worthy of forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiving others is beneficial, because holding a grudge is simply a detrimental experience. This isn't to say that when you forgive others, you are oking what they did... not at all - Forgiveness is a lot more complicated, and it doesn't mean you are letting people off the hook; It is saying that you forgive what they did, but should still be held accountable for what had happened.

For example, if I had a GF, and she cheated on me. I would forgive her, but I would dump her and have not much to do with her, anymore after that. I may still be her friend, but my reasoning is that I cannot be around a person like this, so the best thing to do is to forgive and move on.

 

Ideally you don't want to do anything that may require forgiveness, but everyone ultimately requires this. It is an inevitablity that you will do something wrong, and to say otherwise is naive, and delusional.

Everyone is responsible for what they do, exactly. But forgiveness is good for both parties, and forgiveness doesn't mean everything is exactly the way it was before you did wrong. Situations change whenever you require forgiveness.

And forgiveness is mostly personal, it isn't always something that is done FOR the other. Instead, it is for yourself. Forgiving something is to move on, and moving on is a good and healthy attitude to take. Can you forgive someone else that did you wrong? Can you forgive yourself if you did something wrong?

Forgiveness is a healing process which allows both parties to move forward.