Holding on orgasm? HELP!

I 've been dating that man for a few weeks now, and we have moved on to a new level in our relationship. The sex is fantastic.

He is amazing.. but when it comes to him having an orgasm, he just stops. It happened on 4 instances now. Twice when I was giving him a fellatio, and he other times I was on top of him.

In all cases, he just grabs me throws me on my back and goes down on me. Once I had several orgasms he massages me and pets me. Dont get me wrong I really like him and he is great in bed. But why would he not let himself cum?
Is he just lying about being on the verge or climax?

Does anyone have some insight for me? I mean it is very frustrating knowing he isnt having an orgasm.

 

Hmmm, that sounds really strange... While i have no clue why he would want to stop right as he is about to bust, i would suggest taking a more aggressive role. Next time don't just submit, try to fight back a bit. If he still muscles you around when you are clearly resisting, i would just ask what the deal is.

 

Maybe he has an STD he doesn't want to transmit? Honestly, I have no clue. Just ask him sometime.

 

Why don't you ask him?

Taoist sexual practice encourages a man to retain his semen and teaches him to orgasm without ejaculating. Maybe he is practicing this, though you will have to ask him to find out.

 

I did ask him ..
and his answer was "No I want you to have pleasure. I love to hear you cum."
But it didn't really answered my question of why after I am taken care of he just stops.

 

Does he use a condom? Maybe he does not want to get you pregnant.

 

Cutted with that cexual insight hahahahahahah

 

Cutted has a point. If you are not using any other form of birth control he may be taking the inititive.

If he feels satisfied and you personally feel satisfied then I see little to worry about.

 

Haahaha .. I would have thought about that. When I said climax, I didn't mean inside... He doesn't want to cum at all. Even when I am giving him a BJ he won't let finish him.
It always and with me having multi orgasms and then cuddling. I shouldnt be complaining but I want him to fully enjoy it.. It's making me crazy.

But it is not satisfying for me to have just an orgasm.. I need it to be an experience for both of us.

 

If there is no sperm, you have to ask where it is going, is he doing porn, another women, or maybe he has some mental issues to overcum

The worry about "pregnancy" perhaps have something to do with it ?

I doubt it though ???

 

i agree..there is some problem ..either psychologycal or physical....
i think i read something about it on the net..delayed ejaculation or reversed ejacutlation when sperm go back or something...have a look u may find answer there

 

Maybe he is practicing some form of tantra.

 

The longer you go without orgasm the hornier and hungrier you get and the more you're able to stay that way. Maximum pleasure increases every day. It can make your partner good-crazy which is a turn-on for a lot of people. It's absolutely without question the best way to work the sexual side of a relationship but it takes practice and discipline and it's at its best when both people do it. If he doesn't have some personal problem and he's doing it for reasons such as those I'd find it kind of funny that he doesn't just explain to you why he does it because he probably knows that it's driving you a bit crazy.

It both amazes me and doesn't that seemingly such a huge percentage of people don't understand that holding and letting the fluids in your body build up makes for substantial endless increases in the amount of mental and physical pleasure one experiences. It gets to the point that just seeing your partner walk in the door makes you literally start to salivate like you're starving and your mouth is hovering an inch above a plate of food and a massive pulsing warmth runs through your body and to your crotch without even first having a sexual thought. You will feel like a beast but in control.

There's nothing better than to be able to go a week, two weeks and longer without orgasm, together, while in a sexual relationship. The denial and discipline in and of itself is a huge turn-on and the bond that this whole process forms and maintains and the intimacy it generates is just beyond. There's nothing mystical about this, no strange words and terms from some magical land, no bullshit, this is all about the body, the endocrine system and the mind. Guys in particular I urge you to practice this. Eventually you'll understand how awesome it is to never experience the downtime that we experience after an orgasm, particularly the mental downtime.

We all know orgasm is amazing and that at some point you've just got to have them, but when you do it all the time, whenever you masturbate or have sex, all you're doing is resetting a process over and over again. Let the orgasm be a really, really special time and a highlight of the relationship. Quality over quantity.

I just had to get that out of my system, but seriously....

 

Now you know how many of us guys feel.

 

"But it is not satisfying for me to have just an orgasm.. I need it to be an experience for both of us. "

I know how you feel... been trying to figure out how to make my girlfriend orgasm as well. It can be just as frustrating for a guy or girl it would seem!

 

Since he is choosing this, I'd guess that he's enjoying it. It would be a mistake to think that he is being deprived.