What do you tell the kids?

Hello! I want to own my own head shop one day. But I want to run a business that I will be able to have my kids there if needed. How do you explain to a kid that you sell "drug paraphnallia" in a positive way?

 

uh... trying not to be too rude but you just don't. It is not very smart to be exposing your children to the illegal drug scene regardless of your opinion on it because no matter what it is illegal. You should keep your personal adult life private and let your children make their own choices. Your opening a whole can of worms with that, let them be young and innocent all they can. Being open and ok with your kids experimenting is great but openly flaunting a lifestyle like that in front of them...jeez. You may be a sane good provider but unfortunately most people you come across may not be. Why would you ever want to take that chance??? I hope I am not offending you because that is not my purpose. If anything I would like you to see the other aspects of the situation from a strangers view. Are you a parent yet?

 

I don't think she means illegal drug scene, as far as i know head shops are legal yet no one uses the stuff for "legal" purposes... so, it's a shady area.

 

I took it as being the "illegal drug scene" being she referred to selling the paraphernalia for drugs. How do you make that positive in any way??? Yea, do what you want with your life but not in front of your kids...They depend on you to protect them and a lot of people may see that as dangerous and call CPS. I have a family member who no longer has her kid because of stuff similar to this. The enviroment they were in wasn't great and she could have changed it if she wanted. She loves her kid and was a great mom when she had her but the things that poor kid saw...

 

I wouldn't tell your kids what the stuff is usually used for. Instead tell them what they're "supposed to be" used for. Tobacco and whatnot. It'll go over a lot smoother than trying to explain pot and everything else. I agree. Let them be innocent about it. Though I guess it would depend on their ages.

 

no i dont have kids yet. and i dont own a head shop business. its a dream of mine one day. and i dont look at it as a negative environment for children. if you own your own business you can make it positive or negative. i am just saying, if i do own my own head shop one day, which does sell bowls for tabocco use and what not, my kids would have to know what mom does for a living. and i know people who have their own business sometimes the kids are around for whatever reasons. i would want to make it family friendly for my family at least but at the same time be the good ole hippy head shop.

 

and no i was not offended. i appreciate your advice. sometimes its good to get a stangers point of view on things.

 

It is not a good environment for children to be around period. CPS would take your children no matter how good a parent/provider you are to them. Think before you choose what you want to do.

 

If your "dream" is to own a head shop...dont have any fucking kids. You seem to put your dream of kids SECOND to your dream of owning a headship. If you want kids your gonna have to put them FIRST and make sacrifices...owning a fucking head shop might need to be one of those sacrifices? No parent is going to let their kids hang around your kids, so your kids are going to be left to hang out w/ the druggies they meet at your druggie store. I already feel bad for your kids and there not even born.

 

Hard to argue with that.

 

Get yourself sewed shut so you don't screw a innocent childs life up and fuck up your own . Go ahead and ruin it but NEVER EVER put a innocent child in the middle of anything Its the child first.

 

you people need to stop being so judgemental. Head shops never advertise themselves as being a "pot smoking supply store." In fact, if you mention anything realitively close to it a lot of places kick up out. Why can't people just look at pipes as an art? glass blowing is an art. Pipes are advertised for "tobacco use only." It is none of anyones business what the buyer uses it in their spare time. What if this person wanted to own a sex toy store. Is that wrong? Prositutes could potentially buy from the store and prositution is illegal.

 

Ok dumb shit...everyone knows what a head shop is and what their products are mainly used for. If you want to try and twist and turn things to make a legal and politically correct excuse for the OP to raise her kids in that enviornment then good for you, but it still doesnt make it right to bring kids into that enviornment. And any way, the OPs main problems are that she is trying to work kids around a head shop rather than working her head shop AROUND her kids(which almost everyone agrees she wont be able to do...so just dont fucking try is the logical response)

BTW I love smoking pot and I love looking around in head shops cuz they have some sweet shit, but seriously anyone with common sense knows it is not the job or lifestyle for parents. If you have to smoke pot just dont let your kids know...And now some retard is going to say "well if your hiding the fact you smoke weed then just hide the fact you own a head shop." Thats impossible to do...so theres the answer before some genius thinks he found a loophole.

 

So bumble -if you owned a head shop or whatever the hell its called would you tell the children you know plus the children you work with What your doing ????


Educate them on the possibility of what your selling ?
doing ?
going to buy ?
etc etc etc

Um i personally think being the type of person that works with childen and has children i would NEVER EVER in my entire life have any guts to say hey thats you know .


Some ppl need to be more educated themselves before they have children. And understand the dangers of the effects it can cause to the human being they brought into the world . psychological mental emotional dangers

 

Hmm...I think some of the responses here are kind of harsh. I agree that raising ones kids in a head shop environment may not be the greatest idea, but it's the hide it from the kids forever attitude that I'm kind of taken aback with. So us parents who smoke or have smoked are supposed to deny the existance of marijuana to our children at let them figure out to ins and outs of pot and the drug culture from government propaganda and their peers?

Like many things in life their is a time to start discussing it with our kids. We wait for age appropriate times to discuss things like sex, so what is so bad about weed that your involvement in the culture is something that must be secret and hidden. An open an honest discussion about all drugs leads to kids who make better choices in the end.

And to be honest, the folks who run the local head shop here seem to be good parents with well adjusted kids.

 

I don't think anyone is suggesting not to educate them about drugs. Teaching your kids about drugs and owning a head shop with kids are two totally different scenarios. You say the parents are of your local head shop seem like good parents, I don't doubt that, and then you go on to say the kids have "adjusted" well. Theres my problem, by owning a head shop you are forcing your kids to "adjust" to a negative situation. I am suggesting the OP "adjust" her dream of owning a head shop, rather then asking her kids to "adjust" to that lifestyle.
THERE ARE ALWAYS exceptions, I can find head shop owners whose kids went on to be drug-free CEOS, and I can find priest who malest kids...you have to play the odds though and the odds are if your raise your kids in a head shop enviornment your putting there upbringing in jeopardy.

But what do I know I am an 18 year old guy that loves weed haha

 

I hear you bst88, but a few of the posts suggested that even casual pot smokers ahould not have kids.

Why is this? Of course it's illegality is an issue, but at a point I've been rather honest with my kids and did not hide my disdain for current marijuana laws, nor did I hide the fact that my wife and I are smokers. They all turned out OK. A couple of them like to smoke weed and a couple don't.

If the kids were raised with head shop owning parents it would not be that life they would need adjusting to, but to that of more normal people out there. When I said well adjusted I meant that they seem OK with themselves and who they are.

I've faced this kind of thing for years. When my kids first made friends with "normal" kids from school the normal parents were hugely afraid to let their kids near us because we had dreads and lived in a cabin w/o electricity; basically because we were different. I really don't care if my kids or I blend with the norm out there. I still deal with this today with the mother of my 16 y/o daughter's boyfriend who forbid him from coming over to our house because of our hippieness.

Ha ha. What do I know either, I'm just a weed loving parent of an 18 y/o who loves weed. Peace.

 

We've all been in head shops and it's common knowledge that most of what they sell is usually not drug paraphenalia. Yeah, you have your pipes and bongs and papers and what not, but there are so many other things that have little if nothing at all to do with drugs. You really wouldn't have to explain anything to them because by the time you would have gotten it up and running at least one of them will be at the age where they will find out for themselves; and if they don't then there is no reason to tell them. You sell tobacco pipes. That's what the sign says, right?

I think it is a legitimate dream. There is nothing wrong with wanting to run a head shop and have kids. I'm sure when you have a child you will, like most of us, put all their needs in front of yours. That's just what happens when you pop out a youngin. If it's your dream, I say go for it. Just be smart.

And for those of you who are being so judgmental, since when are people who smoke or go to or work in/run head shops bad people??? And no, CPS will not take your kids just for owning one. When you have a baby, everything changes and your focus shifts completely towards them. It's not like she's going to have her 5 year old on the street corner selling crack for bob's sake. And like Bumble said, if you even mention pot in a head shop you will most like get thrown out. Seriously guys...there is no need for all the negativity...she just asked a question.

 

Our local headshop sold mostly clothes, jewelry, art, trinkets, records, etc. There was a small corner for smoking whatnots....It was completely separated from the rest of the store.

The owner's were a great family that welcomed children. In fact, kids had jewelry making parties there. Yeah, you'll have people that look down on it, but really, do you want to associate with such close-minded people, anyway?