Asking a friend to give me some

I'm a guy. I've got a friend that's a girl. We've known each other for 3 years.
We get along but we're just friends. She has had boyfriends, i've had girlfriends. Sometimes we flirt a little. I got the idea to ask her if we could fool around. The reasons are:

1 = I'm horny
2 = We don't have much else to do together
3 = She must be horny
4 = I think she wants me anyway

Possible outcomes:

~I think she whould either go along with it and be pleasantly surprised or

~she might get uncomfortable, reject me and say I'm weird.

~or, she might say it will ruin our friendship




Any of you guys/gals been through this shit? How did it work out?

I won't laugh at you. Tell your story. Please help me out. what do you think?

Thanks

~Big A

 

I had a female friend for 7 years. Not as much as a kiss. Then we hook up (initiation was shared) and suddenly I felt I must have been blind and that she was extremely beautiful and fell in love.


Today, we don't talk. She sends me silly text messages. I ignore them.

But don't let me discourage you. I would only say that sex necessarily introduces emotions and that a lot of communication needs to take place to make sure both of you want the same thing. If not, ya got a problem!

 

Thanks for the info, man.

I'm not too concerned about the friendship afterwards.
You've got a good point about the communication. I'll have to explain that I just want the fun, and not necessarily a relationship.

 

Seems like you're on to something. Let us know how it went. Good luck

 

Ask her. What have you got to lose. If you don't ask you aren't going to get any. If you do ask, you may. If you don't and she gets angry you aren't any worse off, unless you like to sit and look at her and yearn for a piece that you are not going to get. Go for it.

I used to ask women if they wanted to fuck. Some slapped me, some fucked me.

 

Very good point, Mister Yates...

It will be a few weeks before I get to see her, but I will ask and see what happens. In the meantime, there a few females in my classes that I will ask-out tomorrow. I may ask them the same question... it all depends.

 

Although it is your call, I would like to know what happened when you pop the question.

 

Absolutely!
After getting support from the blokes in this thread ... , it's the least I can do.
I'll be sure to describe exactly how I asked and the reaction... and the aftermath.

Thanks.

If anyone else wants to say stuff, please do. I'm all ears.

 

It would depend on if you value her friendship. IMHO

I have lots of friends that are women and sometimes even though i want to hook up, i dont because i dont want to make the error all men make and think they can have sex and it wont matter to the relationship.

If you dont want her as a friend after, go for it, but then i would say why is she your friend anyway.

 

H

He is right. If you fuck her she will view you differently. She may want you all to herself. This business of fucking women and trying to bounce around is touchy. You need to decide if you want to be a fuckest or like so many others, i.e., fucked up.

 

I completely agree with both of you. Very good points.

I've given all of this a lot of thought. What I've come-up with may just be the result of my impulsive horniness..

I weighed factors and realized that my relationship with her at the moment is pretty good. At the same time though, she and I don't have anything we can "do" together. I'm not necessarily talking about sexual stuff, but just any kind of activity. I'm into boats, racing, and sports. She likes... female stuff. Though none of that is bad, we don't have much in common as far as recreation. We talk a lot, but that's about it. Talking gets old after a while. While I enjoy long discussions, they can lead to disagreements and frustration (occasionally).

I theorize that she has always wanted more from me than just friendship. There have been many hints that she wants some physical attention and that she finds me quite attractive. Let me know if you want me to describe said hints.

I have formed the opinion that she is interested in the same kind of thing as I; a somewhat physical relationship. I have no idea if she wants a full blown relationship. What it comes down to is that I am willing to risk messing up the frienship a little in order to satisfy my sexual appetite and, if nothing else, my curiosity.

I've enjoyed the comments you all have posted. Please keep 'em comin'



Thanks

~Big A

 

Man just go for it. If you guys are cool you just might get some and if she isn't down, I really doubt she will get mad or stop being friends with you.

I have often thought that if I lived in a big city I could just ask a bunch of random girls to have sex since I would probably never see them again. Think about it, if you asked 100 girls chances are some would say yes, and the ones that said no would probably think you were creepy, but then you would never see them again anyways.

 

Good points, man. Unfortunately, this girl may be getting a boyfriend. I'll see how things turn-out. If she ends up in a relationship, I might not ask her. However, I'll use this thread to arrive at my final decision. So far, I am planning on asking, unless things change and she gets together with someone.

That big city thing makes sense. I bet a coupla' women would say yes. You may be able to end up sleeping with more females if you just asked the same number of women out. however, going on dates is a lot more work.

Thanks
~Big A

 

well, i may be to late because of that other boyfriend. But my advice would be get into a conversation about past relationships (or relationships in general if you guys are open to each other about that type of thing) and then pretty far into it, just ask out of curiosity what she thinks a relationship with you and her would be like, and go from there.

 

that's a good idea, man. Except... With this girl, the last thing I want is a relationship. I just want "some" I don't want to lead her on and have her think that things will get serious (besides physically)

The time of the confrontation is approaching. I'll keep updating the thread with the latest info. It should get more exciting as things to along. Thanks for the support.
She hasn't snagged any guys yet. Even if she goes out with a few, that's fine. I'll still pop the question.

Thanks
Big A

 

You are willing to give up a 3 year friendship for one night in bed?:huh:

 

It doesnt work that way Trips You are living in a fantasy

 

I don't live in a fantasy since I have never done it, I live in a small town where it would never work. If you think about it though it's all about numbers and probablility and shit. I gurentee it would work, if anyone had the balls to just go up to girls and ask them to fuck.

 

I think you should stop reading Penthouse Forum

 

Well... It'd be at least two nights in bed.
I don't think I would be losing a friend by doing this, but if that's the case, there's only one way to find out.

~Big A