A couple months ago I met a guy and we immediately hit it off. He told me that just before he came to college he got out of a 4 year relationship. He said that it wasn't a messy break up, but a mutual thing and they have no hard feelings toward each other. He told me he was over it, and really liked me. I consider him my boyfriend, and when I talk about him I use the word boyfriend. I am not sure if he considers me his girlfriend or not though. He never says it, and when he introduces me, he doesn't say this is my girlfriend, he just introduces me. We are extremely close, and are very much like a couple that is dating. I asked him multiple times if we are dating, or what we are and his reply is always "i don't know". We were at a party together about a month and a half ago, and he asked me if I wanted to know why he never declared us "together" yet. I said yes, but then got distracted somehow and he never got to tell me. I have been letting it go all this time, but it still bothers me, and I think about it all the time. I want to ask him again what it is, but he's not one to really get into is feelings and I don't want him to get mad or just not answer me. What do you think the reason could be? I'm so confused.
He probably still has feelings about the last situation. 4 yr is a long ass time to just let feelings go out the window. Although your his new gf just don't let the title bother you. its just like husband and wife.Don't let anything come between you. thats all communication is key. Hes probably still hurt and doesn't wan to "communicate" what the issue is. Girlies are talkitive and emotional while guys are listeners and observers
If he has not said you are dating to you or his friends. You are not dating in his eyes. I am a guy. I know this.
I would try and talk to him one more time. if you're fed up just leave him. maybe he'll realize what he's missing and come back to you.
