So self conscious!

im very socially paranoid and insecure.

things like ... the way i look ... how im acting... what im saying... do ppl like me... do they want me around.

and yes...its worse after a long party weekend...but thats when its bed time!

i try to ignore these things...cos i know mostly they are all in my head and not actually true. i do have very keen instincts though and i rely on them. i can tell the difference between my insecurities and my instincts. one being right the other being bs.

it is hard though sometimes.

 

they're quite irrelevant little things anyway, noone even notices them cos they tend to be too wrapped up in their own jobs, purpose, little insecurities etc

 

Meditate.
Meditate.
Meditate.

In case it didn't get through...

MEDITATE!

 

i wouldnt know how! i wish i did!

the best i try is counting to ten and having a quiet moment. ive found its not that effective though.

 

Edit: pointless.

Nothing to see here

 

feel the same way

you know, to the OP....i want to say maybe try stopping smoking for a month. i think weed causes, or can cause social anxiety and anxiety in general after continued use.
i'm not sure if the legality of the herb has anything to do with that.

good luck.
i also meditate.
i feel very self conscious around people i don't know, which limits my circle of contact to those i know..which isn't too many. i go to school on a campus with 45,000 people...big ten school.
anyways, i like girls and women a lot, but don't have the nerve to start approaching girls on the spot. i get really nervous and self conscious around women. immediately i start to think of the future, ...like hey is this girl friend material?> would i sleep with her? could i marry her? would i want to sleep with her and not marry her? all these silly little thoughts that really can't help because i don't even know the girl yet.
so it ends up being a hindrance and it acts like a stopper on my ability to say something...to speak up.
i also tend to get very quiet when i smoke, ....
i think it is a good time for a break, for once when i didnt use for 3 weeks i became very socially active and started talking to girls towards the end of the soberdom.
which felt really good, but there were so many stresses that went along talking to those girls, and millions of thoughts about them.....and i even went on a date with one a couple times, but i thought about her so much that i would have loved to smoke and, forget or stop all the uncessary uncontrollable thoughts.

 

Just act like your better to the people you dont know, dont make fun of them but just act like your the best.

Im like tihs too, but I think I found something to help

 

If you want to come across as another arrogant conceited bastard do this

 

Self contiousness happens to me all the time too

I ve actually gotten used to it and even get a laugh out of it when it happens

The trick is DONT GIVE A SH*T about what other people think of you.

Just do what feels right to you and get on with your lives

When you are real, people like you more. When you become selfconscious you start acting weird and people respond to that weirdness in the same way


Always remeber to laugh. Laugh as much as you can. Laugh Laugh Laugh LAUGH!! And mostly laugh at yourself. The whole world is a great big joke. Rememeber that always and you will be fine

I honestly believe that God (or whatever) created the world just so he and everyone else could have a good laugh

and also meditate. If you dont know how, the concept is very simple. Just relax and stop thinking about everything. no thinking whatsoever. thoughts will always try to creep into your mind, you just have to push them away. In time it becomes easier (or rather you become better at it) If I can do it ( I used to be the most un-focused person) then everyone can

Hope I made sense

Peace and laugh and smoke weed. Or dont smoke.

 

I didnt say make fun of them. I said present yourself in a way that makes you look good.

 

sounds like your animal instincts are coming out