Huge crush - need some advice ladies!

Hey sisters,
So here's the deal. I'm recently out, and have never felt better about myself! I have completely plunged myself into lesbian literature and I feel so unbelievably empowered knowing now that I identify as queer. I am still working on slowly integrating myself into the community, and I plan on getting much more involved in January when the next semester begins - coming out support groups and voluntering in the queer community, etc. It's a path and I am having a very fulfilling time integrating myself and getting to know who I really am. Time to time, I have a bit of anxiety about what it will be like coming out to family and friends, but I am really not that worried because I know that the people who matter will stick by me.

SO here's my issue. I work at a library and a few months ago when I was in the wee baby stages of coming out to myself, I helped someone out who needed a book, and I have not been able to stop thinking about them since that day. It was like real love at first sight and it propelled me into being absolutely SURE that I was not straight. What a great feeling!!! Anyhoo...this person is absoluitely intriguing. She is a gorgeous woman with a lovely accent and these amazing eyes, shaved head, dresses like a total butch and I can't take my eyes off her! I'm not sure what she isentifies as (might not even be "she") but I don't even care..it's like...I am just attracted to this individual, to their energy, and there is a feminine energy there that I am so hot for, and I just want to get to know her better. I have seen her around campus a few times, and I smile, but she kinda looks mad sometimes so I'm not sure if she might feel uncomfortable or just plain NOT interested. So I try not to stare, but sometimes I can't help it, I just want so badly to make eye contact with her and smile. I don't know what to do! She seems kinda difficult to approach but I can't get her out of my head. To top things off, I have never had a relationship with a woman (but have had sexual ones, since a very young age actually, which is another trip remembering)... so I'm such a newbie and have no idea how to go about approaching the situation and approaching her. And thing is, we're in exams right now so I probably won't see her again until January. Can't get this amazing energy out of my head, I just want to talk to her!

Any advice from sisters who can help me out? I am not assuming she is queer or would be interested, but I just want to find out and see is she would be interested in maybe going for coffee/tea or something?

AHHHHHHHHH!!!!! Love at first sight is a curse sometimes! I wish I wasn't so incredibly SHY sometimes, lol...
Much peace and love!

 

Awww! I know that feeling! I've found that the best way to become familiar with someone is to find something you have in common, like a class or a club, or somewhere you run into each other a lot.

How long ago was the book incident? If you don't have a common ground as such, you could ask about the book.

I'm not sure if I'm being much help, but CONGRATULATIONS! I just came out to myself about a year ago, and it's so liberating! I especially enjoyed meeting other people like me.

Best of luck!

 

Oh, a few months ago. Sorry, just re-read it. Hmm. Maybe that wouldn't work. I take that suggestion back.

 

I really don't know... I talked daily on AOL/IM with my first lesbian crush (gee sounds like some kind of doll "my first lesbian crush") and then we finally admitted feelings after ridiculously hinting at it for days.

 

Thanks for the responses and support Bock and Rigby ...Oh and Rigby, was this someone you knew or was it a dating site that you met on? I was considering that...might make things a bit easier meeting lovely ladies hehe

 

Actually it was online, and I didn't really know her... she has the same medical condition as the MAN I was dating before her... LOL and I was on a support group website for that condition. My girl and I IMed just because we are in the same state... and the rest is history! I didn't know if she was gay either, until she admitted she liked me So you never know. Nothing wrong with a dating site- or a site like ourchart.com... at least you know you're fishing in the right pond!

 

That's a really cute story! I bit the bullett today and signed up on a dating site...it's actually kinda fun so far! But I'm not gonna forget about my crush...one day I will have the nerve to go up to her and say something ...*sigh* lol
peace atcha sisters!

 

I like the idea of dating sites, but then I found my ex-girlfriend online, and that ended up a bit of a mess. I've kinda decided that I'd really like to go back to the traditional way, and wait until I find someone I like in real life. I don't like that I went on a hunt for a relationship. Having said that, I wish you all the best! Good luck.