Hey I didn't really know where to post this, but I have a problem concerning one of my friends. Awhile back on here I posted a thread about me getting busted with a bunch of friends. Here's a link with the original story because I don't really feel like typing that much, http://www.hipforums.com/forums/showthread.php?threadid=270533 Well I just got back from court and the case seems to be going pretty well. I’ve got an attorney who’s actually a family friend, and he’s a really nice guy who seems to be pretty good at what he does. It looks like there going to drop the charges after all and I won't be facing probation or even any fine. They rescheduled the court date to a later date though for some reason because the evidence didn't get back from the lab or something? Anyway, afterwards I was talking to my attorney and he said that he read in the report that one of my friends gave an incriminating story to the cops about the rest of us. I was shocked when I heard this because two of the other people in the car I have known since I was in middle school. It turns out that it was one of my friends who I knew since middle school. He reportedly told the cops the night we got arrested that he saw us (3 other passengers me included) smoking at the party. Then supposedly he went back the next day and changed his written statement. It is now coming all together because I haven't seen him in a long time nor heard from him and we used to hang out all the time. I'm not really angry with him, I'm just really hurt by what my friend did I have known him since we were kids, and I am really unsure of how to approach this. I'm not really sure if I should call him and talk to him about it or just move on? I just wanted to see if I could get some advice on this problem from you guys and thank you for reading the lengthy text.
move on,, an disassociate yourself from him.. confronting him will accomplish nothing as he will already have a excuse ready. breaking all ties with him is the safest thing for you to do because hes already proven himself a snitch whether he recanted his statement or not.
Yea initally I wanted to call him and find out why he did that to me and my other friends, but then after a cooling down for a while I came to that conclusion also. It just kind of sucks, having a childhood friend ,who you trusted, do that to you.
I had a "friend" who I had known since we were in kindergarden together try to set me up with the cops to beat his own charges when I was 19. I think your right to just cut him off, but you should also warn other friends that he is a snich. Get the word out so people know not to rely on him.
yeah, don't talk to him about it, just don't talk to him again. i would tell your other friends about what he did, though. and if they want to confront him about it then let them.
really think about how good a friend he is and has been and will continue to be. was snitching a shitty thing to do? yah. is it worth throwing a life long friendship over? possibly. if he was never anything more than just some one u chilled with (sounds like he was) it probably isnt worth the trouble. if he is a very close friend who made a big mistake u should possibly try talking to him about it. use your own judgement and think carefully about your next move. when it comes down to it, it doesnt matter what i or any one else on the forums say, it comes down to you and your relationship with him and how much you value it.
Thanks for all the replies guys. I've pretty much decided that I'm just not going talk to him anymore. I really valued the friendship we had, but I just cant see being as good of friends with him anymore after this. I just couldn't look at him the same way anymore if I saw him, and I just don't want to put either of us through this and if we went through something like this again I couldn't trust him. I did talk to one other friend about it, but I don't think I'm going intentionally spread word around about what happened. FarmerJ that’s pretty fucked up about your friend also, it's amazing after knowing someone for so long and going through so much with them that someone could do acts like this. I guess that’s what pressure and fear does to a person....
