How to Attract Women: Being the Bad Boy

It seems that when it comes to men chasing women, we guys are divided into two camps: the nice guys... and the bad boys. This is a very extreme way of looking at things, making men think that they have to make some huge decison with serious repurcussions, like choosing between the Jedi and Dark Side, good and bad, black and white. But what about the middle ground? If you're a nice guy who puts women on a pedestal and lets them get away with everything, you certainly can't let them keep doing this. But if you're a bad guy who treats women like yesterday's garbage, you're not gonna do much better either.
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I dont care tbh, i cant change who i am and neither can most guys without looking like an idiot in the process. I dont think im a bad guy, i do bad things sometimes but for the most part im good. Accept who you are and move on.

 

if you are great looking, your personality does not matter that much.

 

steaming load of bull.. Even a pretty asshole is still just an asshole.. anyway you wanna look at it.. my favorite "type".. even though everyone is different.. is the nice nerdy dark hardcore rocker with a great sense of humor and a need to please.. .. mmmm

 

I disagree completely. The guys who are the biggest assholes get the most sex. The nice guy finishes last. Guys who treat females like pieces of meat for their own selfish sexual gratification get the most sex.

If a guy has a great body, cute face, great hair - women will be throwing themselves at him.

I've been around athletes my whole life and most of them are dumb meatheads and very self centered, and they get unlimited action.

Women need to be dominated , they cannot respect the weak nice guy. The badass who treats them like shit gets the most sex.

 

nice guys who are honest get sex too.

 

yes, my best friends in life are nice guys who are very good people and true gentlemen. I have known them for 15-20 years each and know them very well. Each has had between 2-5 sexual partners in his life.

I have also known some very good looking guys who treat women like pieces of meat. They get about 4-6 sexual partners a month. One guy got 4 of the hottest blondes in 4 consecutive nights and then bragged about it... I saw 2 of them and wow, perfect barbie dolls 10.0 bodies. Simply amazing.

Truth is this, when a guy is hot with an awesome body, female lust is unstoppable. They really want to fuck with no questions asked, no strings attached. The great looking guy knows he is a prized item and can just do as he pleases. He can be an asshole and get away with it. guys tell me that they don't even know the names of most of the chics they bang.

 

nice does not necessarily equate weak
my bf is one of the nicest men i have ever met my whole damn life, but he sure as fuck isnt weak. especially in the bedroom. what attracts me? long haired gentlemanly nerds lucky for me i found one whos a keeper

 

define "nerd".

However, I still stand by the theory that the guys who treat women like crap get the most sex.

Just like other primates and other mammals, the female will submit herself sexually to the dominant male. The guys I know who are studs say things like "bone 'em and disown 'em" or "find them, feed them, fuck them and forget them". Right. Lots of respect there and the girls can't get enough of these guys.

 

I know what you're saying, but it's simplistic. I think the first poster had a better understanding of that phenomenon.

I definetely don't think looks do it. Perhaps being tall is what counts most of all as far as looks --- even when the guy is ugly as shit. It's an evolutionary imperative.

Women will tell you some stuff about long hair nerdy, rock n' roll types --- but notice: they are talking about stereotypes.

Women process their fantasies very differently from us. All of their fantasies is much more SOCIAL if you notice. It has to do with the place they occupy vis-a-vis society.

 

or... because our significant other is self-described as that type, and thats why we list them. or we are self described that way and its easier than going into every detail when there is a title that generally describes the sort of person we like (ie nerd - intellectual, likes video games, technologically apt, enjoys learning, likes swords, etc describes both my bf and myself)

 

I have to agree with everything rj45 has said. I've seen all of that too. Of course the female posters won't admit to being that shallow and also the females on a forum like this don't exactly represent the general demographic. People on this forum are much more analytical about sex and better educated. And I'm sure about this one, but my guess would be that forum posters would gravitate to more nerdy guys than a lot of other girls who are computer illiterate.

 

I don't know who you are referring to as the "first poster", but as far as domination and sex, if a guy treats women poorly, she will see him as a powerful male and is more likely to sexually submit to him. Power is a huge draw for women as they seek security which is one of their deepest desires. Women seek relationships with powerful high status men to establish security relationships as powerful men are more likely to have resources to provide and protect the female.

Looks don't matter? Well, I'm going to have to strongly disagree on that. I used to be on a hoops team with a teammate who was just stunning, could have been a male model easy. Dude had the most amazing collection of tail I have ever seen night after night, 9s and 10.0 barbie dolls. Was there some tremendous intellectual conversation going on with these chics he picked up at bars and college frat parties? No, of course not. "Bone em and disown em" that is what he said all the time.

as for purely height, I have a tall skinny 6'4" friend who is very thin and never got any attention from girls. Having a thick muscular powerful body is more important than height alone. Being 6'2" with 225 lb all muscled up body will get you lots of sex. Being 5'4" and 135 with toothpick arms and legs will ensure a life of no action.

 

Women in bars don't want deep conversation, they want stupid drunken fun. If you're looking for interesting conversation maybe try a museum, bookshop or a library. You will NEVER find your soul mate in a bar or dance club-- those places are where girls go to boost their egos or have one night stands.

If you're looking for something meaningful, maybe try a library or coffee shop or something. I'd even go so far as to say you have a better chance of meeting someone special on a public bus than in a bar or club.

Women don't really care what you have to say-- they only really read your energy level and whether or not you're actively and enthusiastically trying to seduce them. I think the problem is a lot of guys come off as weak or needy or not confident so that gets in the way of how much you appear to want this girl. If you make it look like it's really important for you to get to know them, they will respond to that. But you also have to know when to back off-- don't get discouraged, just back off a bit. Mostly, you need to learn how to read women and play the game.

Usually, if you put your heart and soul into the pursuit without getting too creepy or too clingy about it (I mean, really trying hard to respect her boundaries and read the signs while still inserting yourself into her.... ahem... life), then you'll get laid. But the biggest thing is not to get discouraged, because no one wants to hear about how you can't get laid because you're too nice-- no, it's because you're a loser who can't get over himself and admit that maybe he needs to rethink his approach.

Chances are these 'assholes' never go onto hipforums whining about how they don't get sex, and not just because they ARE getting sex, it's because getting sex is the most important thing in their lives, and because they don't have time because they're out trying to get sex. And because they've done it so much they're good at it so it's easy, and without it they would probably feel empty and horrible.

It takes a special kind of person to be that guy, and honestly I think most respectable women stay away from him, because they KNOW-- if you're that comfortable around women, chances are you're a player. Actually I knew a guy like that, and there's no way I would even go near a woman after she'd been with him. In fact, I would lose all respect for her and be totally disgusted.

But anyway, if sex with random women (beautiful or not) is that important to you then you should try harder to achieve your goal. But if not, I would suggest getting a hobby better suited to your own interests, and stop wondering what it must be like, because it's probably not as nice as you think.

 

there are a lot of guys here who have had 100+ partners and they are here not whining but still here. Being on the internet has nothing to do with lack of sexual success. Also, I've been with escorts and it is quite good, but I think it would be better if there were emotions involved and there were no time constraints.