Abortion or Adoption?

Well, I guess this is kind of a serious topic for RT but what the hell, here goes.

Whather you are a man or a woman, you have an unwanted pregnancy, what would you choose and why?

 

adoption all the way man if i had the say, but its the girls choice which i would support no matter what, even if i dont agree with it, i do think abortion is wrong but im pro choice, everybody has the right to choose what they do to themself

 

I don't think there is anything at all wrong with abortion, hell, I think more people should get them

\but when faced with the situation we chose adoption, and I am glad we did

 

abortion. one, i wouldn't want to endure pregnancy and labor, and two, i wouldn't want to give up a child only to wonder about it for the rest of my life and cause it to feel abandoned by me.

 

Abortion all the way.

I don't see a single wrong thing in it.

 

Well, I ask cos a friend just had a baby. Her partner was all supportive right up to the birth, then he suggested adoption. When she disagreed, he fucked off never to be seen again. Prick.
I just spent the weekend at her place and when I see her son I don't understand how he could want to give it up.
I mean, my ex and I aborted a pregnancy 5 years ago. It still makes me cry sometimes(a lot actually). I'm pretty sure if we had had the baby, we probably wouldn't have been able to give it up.

 

I love love love love love babies. They are the best thing on earth next to kittens.

I'd just want to give my children the best and most fulfilling life possible... if I get a girl pregnant right now, I wouldn't be able to do that. So, yeah... abortion.

 

Abortion. The last thing we need is to add to our overly crowded planet.

 

Well, that's how I felt at the time but fuck, I still wonder if I made the right decision. Yeah, no regrets and all that shit but I can't help wondering.

Anyhow, if we had given the baby up for adoption, I would probably be searching for him/her now, and I'm not sure if that would be any better.

 

i love kittens!

marry me?

 

We had an open adoption, this was 14 years ago, I know exactly where she is but i am not going to be overbearing and downright psycho, I saw her when she was younger and she will now come talk to me when she is ready.

I would think there is no question that it would be better for a fetus to become a living breathing human, for you, I don't really care what would be better for you

 

Any other time in my life, I would have thought about any of the two, but I dont know what I would have decided. Now I cant imagine doing either, if I was pregnant I would definitely keep it, be worried at first, but I love babies and kids and life, so Im pretty sure that I would end up being very happy and I think I would be a good mom, well maybe I dont know

 

I will only marry you if we can have at least 15 cats. I had 14 as a kid once (2 female cats both had 6 kittens) and it was completely and totally awesome.

Well, maybe one or two cats and a couple of children. That could also work.

Yeah... I can't imagine what that must feel like. I wouldn't be able to give my kid away if I had one, no matter how poor I was... which is why, the abortion just seems like the best bet.

My mama had an abortion a couple of years before I was born. Could have had me another brother or sister... would have been interesting, but then ofcourse... they would have never had me... so... man, that was one smart abortion

 

I bet that she's a beautiful girl!

But yeah, let her seek you out if she wants to. She'd love you too.

 

i agree with you 100%

i want to give my children the best things possible in life
and that to me isn't material crap, what i want to give my kids is me as a whole person that will make a good mother
i wouldn't be able to give them that now
if i had a baby now, i wouldn't have the time to find myself and become a better person
i have too much growth to do myself

 

Yeah, in some ways I agree. But when I see the life being offered to some of our kids, I wonder. You are more than entitled to your choice and if what you did was right for you, good on ya! It's just that after seeing my friend's son, I'm not sure if I could give up a baby after it's been born.

 

OK, like I said i am pro abortion rights, but when you say you'd essentially rather kill what will become a kid rather than going through a period of difficulty of giving it up you are playing right into the pro-life persons hands, and even almost making me side with them

 

hell yes! we can be the crazy cat couple. no children though, those you can have with your mistresses.

 

Gary, you kinda kill what could possibly become a kid when you masturbate. I won't go into this whole thing... but it's kinda rough to judge a person based on something we have such a trivial understanding of.

I want kids (Unless the world goes to shit sometime soon), and refuse to marry any woman who doesn't want to give me any.

So, sorry... but we cannot get married.

 

Well, as I said. I can't justify my position with logic. I just think that I could not give up a son/daughter after I'd seen him/her. So yeah, if that means that I am a murderer, just to save my(and my ex-girlfriends) feelings, then yeah, I am.
There are many reasons people do not want their pregnancies, there is no right and wrong. We can all only do our best in any situation, at a given moment.
If I was put in the situation again, I'd raise the kid myself.