I think this 19 year old hippy chick fucked my boyfriend

I want to ask her. Does anyone think she will tell me the truth if she did?

Here's the story. I'm pretty sure he's screwed around on me before, but I've never been able to prove it.

A few months ago we moved in with some friends. We are staying in the living room, the other 2 have bedrooms. When we got there there were 3 condoms on the coffee table. One day there were 2 condoms on the coffee table and one open wrapper on the living room floor.

No one else in the house would have sex in the living room, they have bedrooms. I asked my bf and the other roommates, noone knew where it came from.

So a few days ago my other roommate tells me this 19 yr old hippy girl that lives really close said she wanted to jump his bones and the next day she came over and did just that. I had not suspected that she might be the person who fucked my bf in the living room before that because I knew she had a boyfriend.

Now that I know that she is the kind of girl who will throw herself on another man and she lives close by and my bf is hotter and looks more like a hippy than her bf or the other roommate she fucked... I am convinced it's a pretty sound assumption that she was the one.

It's really stressful thinkin your s/o is screwing around on you and lying about it. I've talked to him about having an open relationship many times bt he says he's all for monogamy and doesn't want anyone else. I'm starting to think he just doesn't want ME with anyone else. When I ask him he says I'm crazy and a bad person for even thinking that.

I am so worked up and I feel worthless and betrayed and no sense of trust or intimacy with him. I want to ask her SO bad and get the truth out of her. Does anyone think she would tell me if I beg her???

 

my advice is...don't waste your life worrying about whether some guy is screwing around on you. odds are...he is.

 

^ Seriously Fuck him, and I dont mean 8------) () him I mean fuck em!

You dont need someone you think is cheating on you.

 

She might tell you, but then again she might not. What's the point in asking her? If you don't trust him then you need to move on.

You need to think about why you are living in someone's living room with a man you don't trust. If you think that he did it, to the point that you are feeling betrayed, why stay? Life is too damned short to stay with someone that you can't trust.

 

I think she would probly tell you if you ask her nicely and dont make it seem like if she tells you your going to beat the shit out of her. She might tell you if she knows shes not being threatened. If you dont have trust for someone then you shouldnt be with them. Im not syaing go ahead and break up with him, im just saying maybe you shoudl ask yourself if you really do love him and want to be with him. Try talking to him seriously, set him down when you both have time to talk and no one else is around. Tell him now is the time to get everything out that we have been hiding rom eachother and try to fix things. He might say something and he might not. Soemtimes there is nothing to hide. Maybe he really isnt the one thats having sex with her. Maybe one of your roommates really did leave all those condoms or whatever but they dont want you to get mad so they dont say anything. I dont know but i hope everything works out for you.

 

I agree, I wouldn't ask her for sure. What if she denies it? Maybe she's telling the truth or maybe she's lying (which she most likely would do IF she had done it), you couldn't tell. There's no point to it. I think you should get the truth out of your boyfriend. I guess you're not only with him for his hippielooks, tell him you're really uncertain and unhappy about this. If he still acts like he won't take this matter seriously you probably know enough.

 

Yeah really once the trust is gone its sorta fucked up. I mean if the trust is gone you might as well be fucking strangers.

 

Oh yeah he fucked around on you big time

 

leave the prick.

 

Sounds to me like you have trust issues to start with. If something doesn't feel right, then something is usually wrong. I would confront him, not her, if you are going to do it, either that, or drop it all together and forget about it.

 

Leave him. If he's innocent or is sorry and really loves you he'll come after you and get down on his knees and beg forgiveness. If he doesn't, you're lucky to be rid of him.

 

She must be both beautiful and seductive if her charms and her wiles can get YOUR boyfriend into the sack. She must be stopped from taking faithful men away from their girlfriends. She should stick to sleeping with those unfaithful jerks who want to cheat on their women. That way she would be doing her sisters a favour by identifying unworthey boyfriends.

 

are you a yelous person?i think you are..and if you dont trust your boyfriend then what are you still doing with him anyway?!?maybe its true and he is fucking that pretty hippy neighbour you have maybe he's not..you cant posibly know for sure..and i dont think its good asking her anythin i know i wouldnt..depends on the guy and how much you'r inlove with him..

 

^ if she was so jealous, why would she have suggested open relationships in the past?

 

^ are you jealous maybe and your taking this post out on her ???plz she asked for help not slack. ad not bs like your dishing out.

 

Thanks for all your insight.

I spilled the beans to him about what was bothering me, it was really obvious I was in perpetual anxiety attack, I felt like keeping it to myself was dishonest on my part (not to mention he was being completely sweet to me the whole time like nothing was wrong [cuz i hadn't said anyhting]so I was feeling really guilty about my thoughts which was probably contributing to my perpetual anxiety and spilling releived that for me). Of course he assured me I was wrong. I can eat and sleep again.

I was also never worried about seeming pathetic to her (how pathetic does she look? everyone in our house has known her boyfriend longer than we've known her and we ALL know she boned our roommate 5 days ago), what I realized through intorspection was what I was really worried about was what I would really do if she told me my suspicions were correct. The fact that I would then be confronted with what I have suspected all along, that he has a problem with lying and that I am too codependant to break it off because of that. It's not to say I don't trust him (it's like what Sam says in Jaackie Brown "You can't trust Melanie, but you can always trust Melanie to be Melanie), but his dad is a habitual liar and (my unproven suspicions aside) when he say calls out of work sick cuz he doesn't want to go, he'll talk about it later like he was actually sick. If he has a lying problem he should get help/work on that and if I have anxiety/trust issues I should do the same.

Honestly I'm not really 100% confident that he's telling the truth (though he usually gives away some obvious hints that he's lying which I didn't see this time - he'll usually stammer and be like "what do you mean") that could very well be my problem, and I'm not that offended by him giving into a girl throwing herself at him either way (at least it appears he used a condom, which is the biggest concern because I don't want to have to start using them again), I know he's not out prowling for pussy or anything, but this can't keep happening there needs to be honesty and openness from both of us. Even though I'm not as confident as I should be I realize that without proof all of this could just be MY problem, and he has been supportive and understanding when I confronted him with my suspicions.

Am I the jealous type? Not generally but I was pretty fucking crazy a couple days ago. If I was jealous about anything in that situation it would be that the 2 of them would have a little secret together from me that I'm not allowed to know. Over the years I've grown out of the desire to have an open relationship, I'm still open to it, but over the years there has not been one time I've wanted to screw around with someone else, and I don't really have any desire for meaningless sex (well there's one long-time fantasy of blowing a total stranger in the woods or otherwise outdoors). I think the main functions of that type of relationship are to set boundaries (ie condoms) and freedom from feelings of betrayal from something that could very well have been a mistake. For instance in this case if he had boned her most likely she came onto him really strong, hard to resist, he would not have tell me, but would not feel the need to lie if I asked, I would not feel betrayed or embarrassed and then he could tell me naughty little details to get me hot.

This is getting too long but anyways thanks again everyone for responding cuz I was feeling really fucked up and had noone to talk to, I don't know what I'd have done without you guys.

PEAS

 

you got it all wrong..it was just my opinion..so sorry wasnt trying to be mean or anythin.

 

i love you... keep telling yourself that... its how its read not how YOU precieve it. be carfeful before you hit submit button.