I'm curious to see how much $$ guys spend on their dates. I don't know if you keep up with such statistics, but if you do it would be quite interesting. what might be your average cost for a date and where would you take her? what is your average monthly or annual expense? are you getting your money's worth (just kidding) ? girls and ladies, do you think less of a guy if you are not treated extravagantly? or is it maximum effort that you appreciate regardless of how wealthy the guy (this is the politically correct answere but I don't think this is reality).
I haven't paid for a date in almost a decade. My dates are all 20 mins. coffee dates anyway until I'm comfortable inviting her to my home. Most the time I select women who are more independent, so...they usually offer to pay half. The last time I remember paying for a date proper was my second year in college!
i'm guessing you meet women at Starbucks or some similar cafe? I think your situation is kind of on the top end of the "player" spectrum though, most guys have to work much harder to get the play. I'm curious, if you are comfortable with it, but how tall are you and what kind of body are you rolling in? It's just amazing to me how easy it is for some small percentage of guys, and in my experience, the physical characteristics are the main draw.
Yep. Starbucks dates are awesome. I take the time to talk about "us" and what we FEEL toward each other; I may hold her hands but I do not make any aggressive moves toward the girl (though we may kiss when saying good-bye); I do not put pressure on her to put out; nor do I create the expectation that she'll have a cinderella evening. After twenty-odd minutes I excuse myself and ask her if she wants to come over the house on Saturday for a flick. I'll cook. I'm 5'6" and fit. Even though I'm frequently complimented on my features, I am not the powerful-looking man you think attracts all the women. There goes your theory up in flames. I've been trying to tell you from the beginning. That being said, I might be slightly more fluent with the opposite sex than most socially adequate guys. But I'm no "player" nor do I wish to be one. I like relationships with women, though not necessarily sexually commited.
most of my dates (at the least, first dates) have been coffee shop dates. admittedly most are far longer than 20min (ive had a 5 hour coffee date before, though usually a bit less than that). on those, i expected to pay for my own drink. if he offered, id usually say i can pay, if he insists then i let him. its only a few bucks anyway. as for more advanced dates.. my longterm bf and i have gone on a few fancier ones but those were mostly for special occasions (3month anniversary type stuff), where he offered to pay.
I usually save more extravagant dates for when I'm comfortable with someone and want to show my appreciation. Even then I usually pay for my half, unless I'm considering it some kind of gift. For that to happen a woman has already to have proven her appreciation for me on a number of ocasions. Won't happen in the first month, I'll tell you that. I also like to be doing something active. If talking is all we can do, it's too much pressure in the beginning. It's important actually to learn how to be silent around someone else. When silence is comfortable, you know you've built some kind of emotional bond. I think dinner/movie dates are terrible and awkward before you're actually comfortable. Ugh, creepy!
