guys, do you worry about being accused of

wrongdoing (illegal) or abuse after you have been intimate with a girl? Since very few guys explicitly ask permission before the main event, do you ever worry that she may go to the authorities and get you in some very deep trouble? I know guys who tell me that when the girl is in the shower, they just go right in and then proceed with the fun and these girls are not gf's but rather very short term or 1 night stands. How do you know when to trust a girl, because if she is a man hater, this can ruin a guy's life.

 

Feral has a valid point. Even myself, can be accused of raping my wife of 20 years. All that has to happen is she call the cops. Gawd forbid I ever really piss her off. The difference between a sex crime and love making love as my wife puts it, is FORCE. Women have to remember to say NO if you don't want us doing something sexual. Guys, No means STOP IT! I do not want that.

 

if youre truly concerned about such a thing, avoid fucking women who you dont dtrust to not pull that bs on you. dont fuck women who are under the influence (drugs/alchol/etc) because the courts often rule that even though they may have consented, that consent is invalid because they were incapacitated by whatever substance

 

if guys stopped screwing drunk girls, lots of sex would disappear, especially in college.

 

so? im just saying, if youre truly worried about this problem arising, theres one way to reduce the chances of it occuring

 

No I don't worry about it at all. Never have, never will. I'm not going through life fearfully.

 

Let them. Why should that bother me?

 

lol.

 

guys who get a lot of women have the luxury of disposing of women as they please. Guys more on the normal level of the spectrum don't have such leeway to just ignore women's sexual unpredictability or their commands.

 

RJ, you're not going to get me to feel sorry for you. That's not helpful to me or you.

I'm a normal guy, only I do not put myself in a position of being expendable. I put a price tag on myself.

 

Check this out:

http://lawprofessors.typepad.com/crimprof_blog/2004/12/2_false_rape_st.html

This is just a snippet:

Posted by: Lona Manning | Dec 9, 2004 10:27:53 AM

As a former member of the "USAF CID", more accurately known as the Air Force Office of Special Investigations (AFOSI), I can attest to that paper that disclosed that "one-third" of our rape accusations were false. And, yes, the bar was set pretty high in that "withdrawal" of the accusation was the standard.

Of further interest though, was that AFOSI had designed a list of questions (developed by a psychologist) to be used in any rape investigation. The purpose of this investigative "tool" was to assist the investigator in determining if the accusation was true, as opposed to gathering evidence of the crime(which was done at the same time).

I found this list very helpful in determining the veracity of an accusation (as did all agents), but unfortunately, its existence was brought to the attention of the media, and the subsequent backlash by feminist groups resulted in AFOSI doing away with it. (This was back in the 1980s, so I don't know what they are doing now.)

Based on my personal experience I would say that the number of false accusations is much higher than 2% - more in the 20% to 30% range.

And, while rape may have a well-established definition in the legal community, I am not sure that definition translates well into the "real" world. Date rape where alcohol is involved is not as clear an issue in reality as the law would have us to believe.

Posted by: David | Dec 9, 2004 11:38:21 AM

Like “Dave” I was a criminal investigator for 24 years in the AFOSI and worked many rape investigations from murder rape, (thankfully, only one) to "date rapes" (more common than most people would believe)

Per policy every allegation of rape was thoroughly investigated and most were eventually resolved.

During the course of that career I took numerous allegations of rape that were later disproved; 20 – 30% sounds pretty accurate.

In general I became suspicious of a rape allegation that solved more problems than it created.

For example, the allegation “solved” an unexpected pregnancy or “explained” a venereal disease or a hickey or provided an excuse to be gone unexpectedly for a weekend.

These types of allegations almost never had any physical signs of trauma and seldom included weapons other than a claim of being overcome by physical force.

Posted by: Jim in Texas | Dec 9, 2004 12:19:59 PM

I echo Jim's statement . . .

"In general I became suspicious of a rape allegation that solved more problems than it created.

For example, the allegation “solved” an unexpected pregnancy or “explained” a venereal disease or a hickey or provided an excuse to be gone unexpectedly for a weekend. "

I ran into these circumstances all the time. I am not sure if these reasons apply to the general population, but they certainly were not uncommon in the military.

Posted by: Krusty Krab | Dec 9, 2004 3:25:14 PM

Warren Farrell, in his book The Myth of Male Power (1993, p.322), cites an Air Force study that investigated 556 charges of rape by servicewomen. In that investigation, 27% ADMITTED that their accusations had been false either before or after being confronted with lie detector tests.

Farrell cites "False Allegations," Forensic Science Digest, V. 11, no. 4, Dec. 1985, p. 64, by Charles P. McDowell. Farrell says the Digest is a publication of the Air Force Office of Special Investigations in D.C.

Farrell's book compiles a huge amount of information on feminist issues. On rape, he cites a lot of anecdotal and descriptive information, addition to the Air Force study. All together, quite an important book, and a great resource.


My sister retired from the LAPD, and told me essentially the same thing about her experience - that the percentage of false rape claims was ungodly high.

Please note that the bolding above is mine. Feminists want us to believe their deceitful hype of only 2% false rape claims.

And you do NOT want to get me started on fraudulent paternity!

Yup, OP has every reason to be worried. Too many women are unaccountable for even the most heinous behavior. Someday we may get beyond this culture of pussy worship, but today I do not envy you young, horny, single guys a bit.

 

doesn't this thread belong in the Men With Issues forum? :tongue:

sorry, couldn't help myself...