I'm a virgin, but more than that I'm a kissing virgin. An eighteen year old kissing virgin. When I was younger, I made the respectable, but in hindsight somewhat foolish decision to wait out for the right person. When I was younger I got lots of offers to "be with" girls. I waited, but it just never felt like the right time or person. By the time I got to first year, everyone I knew had been kissed before. As time went on, my desire to wait for the right girl was quickly superceded by my desire to kiss any girl. I found myself feeling left out, feeling different from everyone else. Flash forward a few years, and I'm in the not-so-enviable position of being half way through my first year of college without even having kissed anybody else. Most of my friends, wheter from college or home, have not only kissed many girls, but slept with at least one. I want to just get what must seem to everyone else like the small hurdle of kissing my first girl, but it's hard. If I ever do succeed in getting a girlfriend, the big bundle of nerves that I am, do I tell her the humiliating fact that I've never kissed another girl, or do I simply wait until we kiss for her to find out(or to simply think I'm an averagely-experienced but just terrible kisser)? It'd be embarassing to finish college being a virgin, never mind never having kissed someone. I'd definitely like to wait for the right person when it comes to sex, but what am I meant to do when it comes to kissing? Is there anyone else on the board of a similar age in a similar predicament, or anyone else who was of a similar age before they got their first kiss? I know some people might just come on here and call me lame or whatever, but I plan to ignore what you have to say if there's nothing valuable in it. I also know there are those who'll say "Don't worry, it'll happen when it's meant to happen!". A "Keep the faith" type message. Well, I've been keeping the faith for well over six years now, and it seems the more I keep the faith, the less likely I am to receive a miracle as a result.
Well at 18 it isn't that bad yet. A good friend of mine got his first kiss age 19, he wasn't ready when he was younger and never got the chance when he was older. He's still very desperate for a real girlfriend now but atleast the first thing was solved. I introducted him to a girl who was single and somewhat interested in him, and he was interested in her, so they went on 3 dates and finally they kissed. The thing was though I had told her about taht so she knew not to expect much. It didn't work out because she fell for someone else around that time but my point being: Just be honest. Tell a possible girl, when you're already talked a lot. Most people aren'te ven that bad on their first kiss and if you do it with someone experience you may learn in just a few times. If a girl truly likes you she really won't mind it, and if she minds she probably isn't the right girl anyway. Another thing to do is just try, and tell them right after. It might turn out you actually aren't that bad and she never noticed and taht might be a pleasant suprise. Be honest at some point though; because then if you're not very good she'll know why and also honesty and communication are pretty important. Good luck with it.
well- I'm in the same situation at 19.... It's a big ass pain. The thoughts you posted are the same ones that have run through my head for years. I'm very frustrated when people tell me not to worry, and that it'll "happen some day" I want to make that "some day" be now. However, I've got a new attitude about dating now... I'll try as hard as I can to talk to as many girls as possible. I've talked to quite a few, but most have boyfriends. As for the kissing thing, I've decided not to worry, because being nervous will only make it worse. If I screw up, i'll tell her it's my first kiss, so that's why I suck. But I'm really frustrated that I haven't gotten further with a girl yet. GAWD!$%^&* Hang in there, buddy. I'm going through the same shit.
Mmmhmm I got my first kiss at a few months after my 18th birthday. Then I got laid finally. Wrong girl (something I didnt realize until afterwards) but lots of fun ^_^ When the opportunity comes just TAKE IT NO MATTER WHAT. I've done alot of rejecting before that point, and I regret it. Every experience is experience itself, so live learn love and laugh. AND DONT BE SO NERVOUS! If you and whoever you run into are both willing, dont ignore the signs and fucking go for it. dont be a pussy. cus you have a dick.
It's not because it's your first time that you will be bad at it. There could be more chance of being, but it's not a general rule. You can have slept with 99 girls and still being a bad lover, ya know what I am sayin'?!? If you are a sensual fellow, you got it or you don't. My gf when we first met 3 years ago was virgin all the way and never knew she was if she didn't told me. She kiss and moves like no one does. Fuck quantity and happy quality!
im in same boat, im 16 - and theres 2 sides to my thinking, theres the just wait for that special girl that will rock your world, and then theres the i might never actually find anyone at all special thinking. i dunno, ill wait for a few years more before making huge judgements. most of the people ive talked to in college, upon finding out made fun, but im not bothered because imo kissing and fucking slags isnt that great or special.
im the type that thinks all this interaction with girls is silly i never have had sex ive made out but thats it..ive had many chances too to have had sex but i flat out rejected them because i follow my own code of laws and one is to avoid sexual contact with girls
I kissed my first girl at like 13, i didnt know what to do though. Dont think im any good still but i can get through it confidently. Sex is just something that falls on your lap, and its worth the while.
Kether if you're nervous about your first kiss, let me just say don't be. the first time two people kiss is always a little awkward. the thing to do is just start slow and easy. a kiss is just another way of getting to know a woman. there's an ebb and flow to the conversation, some playful teasing and well you get the idea i'm sure. just approach the kiss in the same way and don't rush it. you'll do fine. it'll happen for you when you're ready. in the mean time, talk to as many people as you can and make some new friends. she's out there. you just have to find her.
