Advice Please

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by QazaKid, Jan 2, 2008.

  1. QazaKid

    QazaKid Member

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    I've been hanging out with this girl for around a month. I love her, I really fell in love with this girl. She has no feelings for me, or so I was told. I would bring her over to my friends house to hang out play some video games, and in general have a good time. She ended up hooking up with my friend and now they just have sex. I know she's going to get hurt because this guy is an asshole. He basically never dates anyone and just hooks up. Now I want to help her realize that this guy isn't right for her. I love this girl so much, if she gets hurt I'm going to kill my "friend." I need advice on how to win her over and make her realize that she's not with the right guy.
     
  2. I_like_apples

    I_like_apples Member

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    Dude does she have any feelings for him? If yes, don't mind to bother, since she wont listen to you and will find herself heartbroke. You should ask yourself the question, could you live with the fact that you could not trust her anymore? If yes, you should do anything to win her over. Dude there is always the first time for unreturned love, i know it sucks.

    And you should realy think over who you call friends!
     
  3. hippiehillbilly

    hippiehillbilly the old asshole

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    i find it amusing,that the first person that gives advice insinuates that you chose your friends unwisely just because one hooked up with a girl you like..

    as far as him not being right for her,, only she can decide that..

    my advise,,, butt out! its none of your business who she fucks..

    if you push your agenda on her you are sure to ruin any chance you would have with her,,forever...

    the best thing you can do is ignore the situation and be as happy with the situation as possible. attempt to remain close to both of them.. perhaps in time she may come to you seeking advise and you can then tell her of your feelings,but scamming to break them up and hook up with her is a sure recipe for disaster..

    just be a man and deal with it....
     
  4. tinstar

    tinstar Member

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    Yup - listen to hippiehillbilly.
     
  5. Musikero

    Musikero Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    I was about to say the same thing but you beat me to it. :)

    OP: listen to who the guy above me said to listen to.
     
  6. kbox489

    kbox489 Member

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    yea dude listen 2 this people i went thru this shit b4 and messed everything up i ended fighting with her b/f sh ended up hatin me and all that just let time decide and wait on her if u trully love her
     
  7. His Eden

    His Eden Queen of Mean

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    If you try to sabotage your friend and the girl it has a really good chance of backfiring on you.

    As much as you like the girl it is possible that she isn't the girl for you. If she is happy just hooking up without a relationship what would make you believe that she would be any different with you? She may not be looking for "love" and that is why she opted for sex with your friend instead of a relationship with you.

    Just back off and look somewhere else. If she gets hurt then she gets hurt. We all go through painful experiences, and hopefully learn from them. It is not your job to keep her emotionally safe, and will likely be an unwelcome intrusion. Maybe one day she will want a relationship and look you up, and until then you need to move on.
     

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